theraven Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Ok here's my deal. I'll try and make it as short and sweet as possible. I'll start off by saying I'm a senior in high school. I dated this girl for 2+ years. We just recently broke up about a month ago. I know I'm only a senior in high school, but I honest to God though I was going to marry her. And she thought the same thing. We had an AMAZING relationship. We were very happy together. At the beginning of September, we were better than ever! We talked about marriage and everything. All of a sudden, she started acting weird and said she wanted to go on a break. That lasted for a week, then we officially broke up. I am heart-broken. I want her back SO bad! I cry probably every night. I don't know what to do. She tells me that she just isn't happy right now and isn't ready to get back together. She tells me that she still loves me the same and still wants to marry me and still feels like we are meant to be. I definitely feel like we are meant to be, but I want to be with her NOW and for the REST OF MY LIFE! I don't want to wait till later to be with her. What should I do? I WANT to get back together soon, and live happily ever after. But that's not gonna happen. I'm scared to think that we are going to get back together within the next year or two, but end up not and me just giving my hopes up. So what I want to do is just try and get over her. But I don't know how to do that. I've tried to hang out with my friends a lot. I've tried to be with another girl. But it doesnt work! All I can think about is her... So any advice on how I can get over her? I don't want to sit here on the weekends and wonder if she is with another guy or anything like that. But it's impossible. Any advice? And also, do you think there is anyway we would get back together sooner? Maybe in the middle of college? Maybe after college? Or not at all? I know for a FACT that the love she had for me was REAL! And we were so happy together. What happened? She tells me that she is happy right now and that's why she doesn't want to be together. Why isn't she happy when she is with me anymore?! It doesn't make any sense. I'm so hurt. I have so many questions going through my head right now. I'm confused. Please, any help at all would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, The Raven
bac Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 google 'oneitis' i have heard that it is helpful for men.
BG1985 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 You're still in high school. You don't have any idea how much both of you are going to change within just the next year or two. Are y'all going to college together? If not, then this is definitely for the best. But you need to attempt to stop all contact with this girl. Don't call/email/text/Facebook/Myspace her. If she left any of her stuff at your place, give it back to her or throw it away. If she really thought you were the "one," she wouldn't have broken up with you. It hurts, but going no contact will help you in the long run.
Author theraven Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 We are not going to college together. I'm going to the University of Texas at Austin and she is going to Blinn Jr. College in College Station, so we will be 2 hours away from each other. And NC really works? I want to try it, but I park next to her at school and I have a class with her were I stinking sit RIGHT behind her. How do I do NC with that? And why do I keep stressing about if she's with another guy and doing sexual stuff with other guys? I don't want to keep killing myself over that...
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