Devil Inside Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Lines my OW fed to me: I will wait for you forever. You are the most amazing man I have ever met. My husband I have not sex in a year now, we don't even sleep in the same room. After her D: I consider myself your wife, I would never date another man, I am yours. You are the best lover I have ever had. You fit me so well. I will never leave you. I will never break your heart.
Author lovekillsslowly Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Not exactly. Everything I meant when I said it. Some I meant for a month. Some I meant until it ended. Some I mean even now. Point is...he may adore you, he may think you are beautiful, we all think that of our beloved...at least I always do. However, when he says he is leaving...don't believe him, watch his actions...that reveals the truth. Oh...ok. Thanks for explaining what you meant. I would like to clarify something....he never told me he was leaving...he never told me he loved me....and I'm the one who told him that neither of us was going to leave our current situations just so we could run off together. I told him this after he told me he wanted to "run away with me." I was willing to let him (and myself) stay in our current marriages just so we could still be with our children 24/7 and not have to become "part-time" parents while sharing custody with our spouses. I knew how much his children meant to him, and mine to me, and how important it was for both of us to never, ever have to miss a minute of their lives because they are spending holidays and every other weekend with their mother or father. He use to tell me "I don't ever want us to get caught because then this would have to end for awhile and I don't ever want this to end." Well guess what?!?! We never got caught and he ended it anyway because he couldn't handle the "guilt and stress" associated with having an affair. Gee I wish he would of realized all that guilt and stress he was feeling everytime he was having sex with me.
Blindsidedagainalive Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Did at anytime you disrespect OM as a man for his willingness to cheat with you? Also, did you think he disrespected you for not keeping your marriage vows? Most woman have heard 'men are pigs', 'they are only after one thing'. It is quite common for men to use flattery and such for sex. It is so often depicted in the media....corny lines, slimeball dudes trying to woo woman....both married and single. I realize that all affairs are different....particulary if you knew the affair partner well....for many years. This is more applicable for affairs that started within a year or two of meeting affair partner. How were you able to believe the lines knowing this? I suspect that you don't REALLY believe it, but are playing along with it?
Author lovekillsslowly Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Did at anytime you disrespect OM as a man for his willingness to cheat with you? No. I'm a woman...a married woman...and I was willing to cheat too. Also, did you think he disrespected you for not keeping your marriage vows? No. Because he wasn't keeping his either. Most woman have heard 'men are pigs', 'they are only after one thing'. It is quite common for men to use flattery and such for sex. It is so often depicted in the media....corny lines, slimeball dudes trying to woo woman....both married and single. I realize that all affairs are different....particulary if you knew the affair partner well....for many years. I've known him for 13 years. I wanted him for 8 years. This is more applicable for affairs that started within a year or two of meeting affair partner. In 2001 I started having feelings for him. In 2002 (a year + later) I confessed my feelings for him. We entertained the idea for two weeks but NEVER, EVER acted on anything. We didn't even meet each other or hold hands. Then he did a complete 360 and decided that we needed to be nothing more than friends and that we needed to quit communicating through e-mail and phone calls. We had NC for two years after that. How were you able to believe the lines knowing this? Because in February of 2008 he contacted me and told me that there were so many times he thought of calling me and we should of had an affair six years ago but he had to try to make his marriage work...yadda, yadda, yadda... Call me a fool but all I could think was "FINALLY! For 8 years I have longed for this man....and it is FINALLY coming true for me!" I was so happy...for 10 months (the length of the affair) I was truly happy. I suspect that you don't REALLY believe it, but are playing along with it? Sorry but I really did believe him. I was never playing along.
Author lovekillsslowly Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Lines I said to xMM - *This is everything I ever wanted with you *Being with you is heaven on earth for me *I will never ask you to leave your family for me *You are the "man of my dreams" *My husband and I don't sleep together...he sleeps in our room and I sleep on the couch *I have loved you for a very long time *I don't love my husband anymore...I haven't for a very long time....and I don't know if I really, truly ever did *I remember the very first time I ever saw you (this was followed by me describing where we were at, what the month, year and day was and what he was wearing...this all happened in a brief moment as we passed each other in the school hallway where our boys, who were in pre-school at the time, were attending. Our boys are now Seniors in High School That's how long I have had this man in my system) *I have dreamed of this moment for a very long time *You are everything I've ever wanted *You make me happier than I have ever been in my whole life *You mean the world to me *I truly love you However, unlike him, I truly meant everything I ever said to him. They weren't "lines" they were the truth. I never, ever said any of those things to anyone else in my whole 43 years of living. I never lied to him. I never said something to him that I didn't mean. When I said it I meant it for that moment and for always.
Spoiled Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Did at anytime you disrespect OM as a man for his willingness to cheat with you? For twelve years, we always respected each others' morals and values. We constantly worried during the A whether or not we would still respect each other. I felt disrespect toward him for not initiating IC or MC even five months after d-day. Also, did you think he disrespected you for not keeping your marriage vows? No, but I wondered if we had both left our marriages whether or not he would trust me. Especially since we had known each other for so many years. Most woman have heard 'men are pigs', 'they are only after one thing'. It is quite common for men to use flattery and such for sex. It is so often depicted in the media....corny lines, slimeball dudes trying to woo woman....both married and single. I realize that all affairs are different....particulary if you knew the affair partner well....for many years. This is more applicable for affairs that started within a year or two of meeting affair partner. How were you able to believe the lines knowing this? I believed for myself that I was beautiful, fun, and exciting and heard it often from others(friends, coworkers,etc.), him saying it was nothing new. We both questioned each others' statements occasionally. I probably fed more of the lines......I honestly think he hyped up his M status initially because he always thought my M was so "perfect." We soon realized we had similar imperfections but neither of us portrayed our Ms as awful. I suspect that you don't REALLY believe it, but are playing along with it? .....................
learnfrommymistakes Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Hi I have been reading this thread with some angst and some eye opening movements....lol At first I was thinking, man they all sound the same...etc etc. I guess when you have been in a loveless, sexless or boring, or mundane, or whatever marriage, you spring to life with new A, attention, and you can reinvent yourself. You can be that animal, that lustful ROARING lion and you dont have to worry about sharing a full life and responsibilities with that person so it is easier to show all the fun and passionate sides I guess.. Sorry, getting off topic.. The things I said to my fMM were all deeply true, and they were exactly how I felt, so perhaps some of these MM do mean what they say, at least some of the time...or when they say it THINGS I SAID... I am hungry for you (yeah I cant believe it either) My heart skips a beat when I get a text or chat message Just being in the same room with you sets me on fire I have never felt like this in my life No one has ever gotten to me the way you do and so on and so forth ALSO I wrote deep and intense poetry about and for this man and said things on the phone and in emails/text I could never have imagined myself saying with anyone. It gave me room to roar like a lion and feel crazy sexy...not that i had image issues in this way, but he drew something animalistic out of me, and was/is a very sexual person...but I actually fell in love with his smile, eyes, laugh and charm.... NOW i would have a host of other things to say, and many of them would not be as nice. I did mean everything I said, truly..now I just am not sure I would say the same things for self protection and to keep some sense of self, and not get lost in him again..even tho he is single, I dont want to ever be hurt like this again... sorry if I thread jacked, I was just intrigued....by all the responses lfmm
skylarblue Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I don’t think every word that comes out of a MM mouth is bullsh*t. All that “you feel up my senses” crap, yes, but not everything. My MM hasn’t given me any lines. He knows he doesn’t have to because it’s sooo not that kind of R. If anything, I give him lines. Not really in what I say, but just me overall. I play a great “role” for him. The “you always get me hot” (true), “you’re the greatest”, “you’re so right, she’s so wrong”, “you’re such the perfect man” role. It’s like lines materialized. The posts reminded me of these song lyrics: “What would you do if my heart was torn in 2? More than words to make me feel that your love for me is real. What would you say if I took those words away? Then you couldn’t make things knew just by saying I love you…More than words is all you have to do to make it real. Then you wouldn’t have 2 say that you love me ‘cause I’d already know.”
Fallen Angel Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 The most hurtful... "I love you, and you are worth so much more than I can give you." It is the most hurtful because it implies that if he could he would give me more, but the truth is, he can, he just chooses not to.
Alpha Female Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I have a few more: You make me feel like I belong somewhere. No one has ever believed in me the way you do. No one has ever taken the time to help me realize my dreams. You are the first person who didnt make me feel like I was nothing. You make me feel like I am worth something.
affairshipper Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 (edited) You're the only one who treats me like a human being. I want to be there for you if you ever get sick. My interests lies in getting past sex. I miss you. I'm thinking of you a lot. I am sexless with a family. He says she doesn't respect him. She nags at him, and is unloving towards him. (Even though, they sleep in the same bed with kids.) He is a sex addict. Edited November 6, 2009 by affairshipper Mistake
MizzBlue72 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Well - most of the same, but here it goes. I can't talk to you ..wife is home sick, etc. I can't talk now - talk soon. I miss you We will see each other again I think it will be today (d-day) I love you I live in the other room I sleep on the couch
affairshipper Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 You make me happier. Knowing you has made me stronger. I respect you. I want a healthy and uncomplicated relationship with you. I think about you all the time. I miss you. I want you. I love you. (All were lies!)
Susie1 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 YOu are my deepest fantasy (as if..XD) You are so beautiful You make messy sexy I wish you were here! I wish I met you years ago! Bah Grow older Then we could had been childhood sweethearts. I am in love! *followed by I love your breasts.. (rolls eyes)* You make my heart skip a beat the second i see or hear from you! Stop pulling so pretty faces. you're cute when your mad (great in a argument (!))
crystal_lostheart Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I respect you I can't leave til I know my W is able to take care of herself I always put you first ..... (my blood is boiling:mad:) Can't you see I am walking out on my son for you? I sleep in a separate room I haven't slept with my W in 2 years I am going to buy my W a new car, set her up properly and then leave her (didn't happen - he only left when I walked) (After he left) I want to spend the night over at W's house only to be next to my son How have I ever hurt you? Can't you see all the things I have done for us, but it's never enough is it? I'm really trying to make things better for us, it's just hard right now (been saying that one for 2 years) I don't understand why you get so upset. Can't you see I am doing everything I can. It's easy for you... You don't have a son.... You will never understand I love you. You are the love of my life and one day mother of my children This one takes the cake for me: Why did you buy a house without me? We should have done this together (mind you he was still with his W) Well... that's mine ... makes me wanna crawl in a hole right now for even listening to such crap
tami-chan Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 "i love you, forever...I can't and won't ever say goodbye...."
BeautifullyBroken00 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Did at anytime you disrespect OM as a man for his willingness to cheat with you? I didn't disrespect him. I believe that he should have gone about it differently with his given situation. Also, did you think he disrespected you for not keeping your marriage vows? No. She broke the vows. She does not have any intimate contact with him whatsoever. (that has been verified.) Most woman have heard 'men are pigs', 'they are only after one thing'. It is quite common for men to use flattery and such for sex. It is so often depicted in the media....corny lines, slimeball dudes trying to woo woman....both married and single. I realize that all affairs are different....particulary if you knew the affair partner well....for many years. This is more applicable for affairs that started within a year or two of meeting affair partner. How were you able to believe the lines knowing this? I still believe the things he told (tells) me. He and I are very intuned to each other..we spend more time together than most people who are in this situation, therefore we have become very close. And, I can usually tell if he isn't telling me something. So far, I have not caught him in a lie that he has told me, so I trust him. I suspect that you don't REALLY believe it, but are playing along with it? I believe what he tells me for the most part. Things are getting a bit rocky (or they have been for the last month)...so I have some questions right now..we will see how much of it was bull**** soon enough.
Zarah Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Here are some that MM told me: "I love you - and I have not said that to anyone in five years" "I miss you" "I need you" "I want you" "You make me happy" "I feel responsible for you, I want to take care of you" "No matter what happens between us you have a permanent place in my heart" "I adore you" "I really love you"
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