stepka Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Part of the reason that women are reluctant to make these decisions about where to eat is b/c the man usually foots the bill, and she doesn't want to be the one deciding how he should spend his money. If I were to be the one to make the choice about where we're going to eat, I'd probably choose something less expensive, even budget, but some men might become offended by that, and you can probably see now why it would be a problem, esp in the beginning of a relationship.
caseinpoint Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Part of the reason that women are reluctant to make these decisions about where to eat is b/c the man usually foots the bill, and she doesn't want to be the one deciding how he should spend his money. If I were to be the one to make the choice about where we're going to eat, I'd probably choose something less expensive, even budget, but some men might become offended by that, and you can probably see now why it would be a problem, esp in the beginning of a relationship. Does that mean guys like to bring girls to a classy or nice restaurants in the beginning of relationships? Why would they be offended by cheaper places?
BG1985 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I bring girls to classy/expensive places because I enjoy eating at those places myself.
caseinpoint Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I bring girls to classy/expensive places because I enjoy eating at those places myself. So even if you were lukewarm toward the girls, you would bring them to the same classy or expensive places you bring the girls you really like?
Vertex Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Mistake #6 - story of my life, haha. Has happened a few times
BG1985 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 If I'm lukewarm towards the girl, I'm usually not bringing her out on dates anymore. It's that easy.
caseinpoint Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 If I'm lukewarm towards the girl, I'm usually not bringing her out on dates anymore. It's that easy. What about the first date?
BG1985 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 If it's a girl whom I would like to see myself get more involved with, then yes, I'll take her on a nice date. I'm not going to go on dates with girls in whom I'm not very interested.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Part of the reason that women are reluctant to make these decisions about where to eat is b/c the man usually foots the bill, and she doesn't want to be the one deciding how he should spend his money. If I were to be the one to make the choice about where we're going to eat, I'd probably choose something less expensive, even budget, but some men might become offended by that, and you can probably see now why it would be a problem, esp in the beginning of a relationship. This is an excellent point. I am dating lightly for the first time ever, really, and I have been a bit surprised that the guy I am currently seeing has taken me only to quite nice/pricey restaurants for dates. When he asks for my input, I suggest some cheaper places, but so far he hasn't gone for those.
BG1985 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 When you name those cheaper places, do you really want to eat there or are you afraid to tell him where you would really like to eat?
Ruby Slippers Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 When you name those cheaper places, do you really want to eat there or are you afraid to tell him where you would really like to eat? Yes, I really want to eat there. Honestly, I think he is a lot pickier about restaurants than I am. To me, it's about the company and the experience, not the price. I'd rather have a fun $10 date at a good hole in the wall place than a boring date at an expensive place. (The good news is none of our dates has been boring. ) As a small business owner working very hard to minimize my expenses, build up some capital, and take my biz to the next level, I can't even afford to eat at some of the places he has taken me, so of course it has been nice. But normally when I go out with my friends, it's to cheap or moderate-price places, and I am totally happy with them.
Vertex Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I personally like cheaper places because you can just relax and have fun
Ruby Slippers Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Yes. I haven't used my proper knife-and-fork table manners this much in years. I do think it's sweet, though, because he's obviously trying to make a good impression. Even when we cooked dinner at my place, he brought over top-of-the-line ingredients, everything organic, excellent Italian parmesan, wine, fancy chocolates and fruit for dessert. A girl could get used to this.
BG1985 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Maybe your guy just has good taste. If I'm grilling a steak, I'll spring for a good one rather than one of those cardboard-thin "ribeyes" from Wal-Mart. Good food is not something I prefer to compromise on.
Jerry18 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Mistake #6 - story of my life, haha. Has happened a few times I still don't understand why with a Wharton degree you would have problem finding girls.... I'm sorry but if Wharton grads can't get finance jobs that give them models and bottles then finance is dead.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Maybe your guy just has good taste. Clearly. He's dating me.
EcstasyX6 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Eric, Great post! I'd say that 1-4 applies to shy girls as well.
caseinpoint Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I wish but if you can PM me your situation I could put something together. You don't seem to have the PM function yet. I wasn't able to PM you. I think we need to post more to be established members first.
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