BG1985 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I'd love a girl who didn't feel like she had to confine everything to the bedroom. Although I can't stand pda, I enjoy being sexual outside the bedroom. I don't mind giving her a nice smack on the ass when we're out or things of that nature.
A O Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Some of the responses here are just nuts, seriously. A woman with a high sex drive is gonna cheat? A woman with a high sex drive is gonna use sex as a tool for manipulation? A woman with a high sex drive is a fantasy (or has bipolar disorder)??? Do you believe that there's a grain a truth in any one of these statements or are they totally without merit. If you believe in the former, then why are you calling them nuts. If you believe in the latter, then why? A woman with a high sex drive is nothing more or less than a man with a high sex drive...That's assuming that men and women both approach and view sex in exactly the same way. This is not true, hence your statement is false. The sexes are different, the more we get that, the more we'll understand. she just enjoys sex, and should preferably find someone with at least a reasonably high drive as well! This much I totally agree with. Compatibility is a bigin in the relationship world. And as for you guys who think that your girls will cheat if they have a higher sex drive than you... well, lets hope you find a girl with exactly the SAME sex drive, else YOU might cheat if you've a higher sex drive than her, eh?.... and because the sexes are different, so too then, are the environments we operate in. Generally, women are more discriminant than men, sexually speaking, so it matters not the fact that men have higher sex drives because they are, to a large degree, regulated by women. The same can't be said the other way around. But anyway, that's all beside the point. I would suggest that what most people, men especially really mean, is that the "likelihood" of cheating is greater for a higher sexed women than an average sexed women, not unlike the fact men are 'known' to cheat a little bit more than women. So, if the latter was true then it stands to reason that a women who basically acts like a man is viewed in the same way that men are. .
Els Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I'm telling you from experience... that is not always the case! My XW had a very high sex drive, until we got married. If you run across a woman with a high sex drive, you need to ask yourself why. Some like you say just enjoy sex... but I don't think that is the most common reason. While I am sorry you've had one bad experience with a woman with a high sex drive.. I really don't think it's fair to extrapolate that to all women. Don't you believe in 'innocent until proven guilty'? It's a sad world we live in, if a woman can't just enjoy sex without being automatically assumed to have a mental disorder, or to be using it for manipulation purposes, or to be a cheater... the way several posters did. Do you believe that there's a grain a truth in any one of these statements or are they totally without merit. If you believe in the former, then why are you calling them nuts. If you believe in the latter, then why? As above, my tirade is directed at the few men who answered in the style of 'I wouldn't, because who knows whose pants she'd be jumping into when I'm unable to satisfy her then?' , rather than 'Well, as long as she proves her fidelity'. The former IS completely without merit, because that'd be like saying 'I wouldn't date short men because they tend to have shorter penises'. If a woman had said 'I wouldn't date a man who had a short penis', that would at least be far better than automatically assuming that a short man should have a short penis just because studies have shown that there's a slight correlation, yes? But anyway, that's all beside the point. I would suggest that what most people, men especially really mean, is that the "likelihood" of cheating is greater for a higher sexed women than an average sexed women, not unlike the fact men are 'known' to cheat a little bit more than women. So, if the latter was true then it stands to reason that a women who basically acts like a man is viewed in the same way that men are. . I think many men would beg to disagree with you that men are more prone to cheat than women. In fact, some would clamour that it's the other way round. Wouldn't you feel offended if a woman rejected YOU for wanting sex everyday, just because she ASSUMED that you'd have a higher probability of cheating than a man who wanted it once a week... and thus chose the latter instead? Haha Elsworth I said I can do with 1-2 times a day. At the beginning of a relationship I prefer sex whenever and wherever there is an opportunity for it. But after awhile it does somewhat decrease to 1-2 times a day, which according to my friends makes a guy less willing to work hard in a relationship (I don't understand their logic sometimes, but anyway...) Also, I agree, if a woman has a high sex drive and a man isn't comfortable with that because his reasoning is that she will cheat, I'd personally steer clear of that man unless he's had some major issues with it in the past to warrant such thoughts. And even then, I'd take that as a slight sign that someone may have some insecurities about themselves and their ability to please their partner completely. Not saying any of the other posters are like that, but the idea would cross my mind. This is what I meant exactly. Geez, and men wonder why women are 'frigid' and all that. Damned if you do and damned if you don't, I suppose.
A O Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 As above, my tirade is directed at the few men who answered in the style of 'I wouldn't, because who knows whose pants she'd be jumping into I see. Understandable. If a woman had said 'I wouldn't date a man who had a short penis', that would at least be far better than automatically assuming that a short man should have a short penis just because studies have shown that there's a slight correlation, yes? You've got me there. I've not seen such studies. I am, and most people are, well aware that men, in general, have higher sex drives than women. Likewise, every statistic I've ever seen have men slightly ahead of women when it comes to propensity to cheat. Having said that, I also read/heard that things are evening up now days. I think many men would beg to disagree with you that men are more prone to cheat than women. In fact, some would clamour that it's the other way round. Well, if they give a credible source or make a decent enough argument to support their view, then I may change mine. Wouldn't you feel offended if a woman rejected YOU for wanting sex everyday, just because she ASSUMED that you'd have a higher probability of cheating than a man who wanted it once a week... and thus chose the latter instead? I come from the "men are pigs simply for existing" era. This is hardly going to offend me. .
adover Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I think many men would beg to disagree with you that men are more prone to cheat than women. In fact, some would clamour that it's the other way round. Wouldn't you feel offended if a woman rejected YOU for wanting sex everyday, just because she ASSUMED that you'd have a higher probability of cheating than a man who wanted it once a week... and thus chose the latter instead? My last girlfriend had a very low sex drive compared to me, she only wanted it once a week at most and when we did have it it was always on HER terms, as in, I had to try and get knocked back until SHE was in the mood. The feeling of rejection and resentment that sprung from it became too much which caused arguments which never got resolved. She thought I asked too much, I thought she didnt try hard enough. And just to add... I was in the relationship for 2 years and NEVER cheated. Although the pain was unbearable. And added to that... I would date a nympho because of the fact I have such a high sex drive, but I'm also quite intensive in relationships so I could spot her cheating a mile off and get an unease if she was untrustworthy! Just to say a girl/guy is a nympho doesn't mean they're a cheater. My 2cents!
always_searching Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 I'm perfectly fine with it so long as the girl is intelligent and committed to relationship fidelity. If I detect even a hint of sexual irresponsibility or discover a history of unfaithfulness, though, it's "see ya." Of course, the latter condition would hold for any girl. So bring on the succubus with a heart of gold. Hahaha! Here *raises hand*
CLC2008 Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 Lol, I'm not extremely bothered by it, but it is different being with him. My last two boyfriends had extremely high sex drives, and I could barely keep up with my most recent ex, lol. But I mean his isn't bad or anything, but it's also not as high as what I'm used to. He still makes me happy in other ways and like they say "a relationship isn't all about sex", so ironically that makes me happier. Because with him I don't feel like a sex object as I did in my last two relationships. Not a guy but I do believe sex is an important part of a relationship, but it's just ONE aspect. I would never want to be with someone who hounded me for sex every single day, who wanted sex every day, that would just be exhausting. But, I also would not want to be with someone who could go months without not wanting to be sexual with me. Somewhere in the middle is good .
EcstasyX6 Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 3x a day... Young female (and male) "nymphos" should enjoy that while it lasts - once you experience pregnancy and have young-ish children, those days are long gone. Not true for everyone. My bf and I (in our 40s)have very healthy sexual appetites...teenage kids...STBD for me, and he's divorced. Sex is off the charts. So OP, female here speaking for my bf, he appreciates my high sex drive because he has one too. Both of our exes couldn't keep up with us, so we think this time will be a hit!
Ody Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Ok so I'm wondering what guys think of a girl who has an incredibly high sex drive (I mean way above average). Do you find it sexy, sometimes a turn off? Would you want to be in a LTR with her or just something short term, like a little fling? Personally, I see this as a requirement for an LTR. Not the only requirement or most important one, but I would have a hard time in an LTR with a woman who didn't have a strong sex drive. For short term this is great but not necesary.
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