Vertex Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 (edited) It all depends on the person. I think though, in general, a high sex drive can be a good thing as long as you switch things up and keep each other happy. The cool part about having lots of sex is that you have more opportunities to try new things. To throw in my two cents about personal preference, I can't have sex three times per day every single day... there's simply not enough time for me. Once a day, sure. My concern is that if someone is having sex three times per day, what else are they doing? Do they spend much time doing other things (as a couple) besides just banging in a bed all day? For a fling, 3x a day might work out, since flings are usually sexual in nature anyway, so that type of relationship seems ideal. 3x is probably better feasible as a short-term solution, but over a long period of time... I think any normal human would be worn out with their junk ground to dust. For a LTR, I'd rather be with a woman who simply had a normal, healthy drive (for me, a once a day average would be nice, but I'd be content with 3 to 4x/week to be honest). Edited November 4, 2009 by Vertex
sumdude Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Depends on what you consider to be 'way above average' . I have a pretty high drive myself so it could be a very good thing. If we're compatible and get along in other ways it sounds great to me!
Island Girl Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 (edited) So bring on the succubus with a heart of gold. Present! Umm I'm really not kidding... -- If a guy puts the effort in when he does do it -- to do it RIGHT -- I am willing to wait and go without for THAT kind of man. Edited November 4, 2009 by Island Girl
JL911 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 I have a very high sex drive...Love it!! However, I am only like that with certain people who I have a connection with....Ive never been with a girl who has been able to hang or was willing to as much as I am....Maybe thats a trend...I dunno...
bean1 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 3x a day... Young female (and male) "nymphos" should enjoy that while it lasts - once you experience pregnancy and have young-ish children, those days are long gone.
Author aerogurl87 Posted November 4, 2009 Author Posted November 4, 2009 It all depends on the person. I think though, in general, a high sex drive can be a good thing as long as you switch things up and keep each other happy. The cool part about having lots of sex is that you have more opportunities to try new things. To throw in my two cents about personal preference, I can't have sex three times per day every single day... there's simply not enough time for me. Once a day, sure. My concern is that if someone is having sex three times per day, what else are they doing? Do they spend much time doing other things (as a couple) besides just banging in a bed all day? For a fling, 3x a day might work out, since flings are usually sexual in nature anyway, so that type of relationship seems ideal. 3x is probably better feasible as a short-term solution, but over a long period of time... I think any normal human would be worn out with their junk ground to dust. For a LTR, I'd rather be with a woman who simply had a normal, healthy drive (for me, a once a day average would be nice, but I'd be content with 3 to 4x/week to be honest). I don't mean 3 times a day everyday, lol, but at least once a day ideally and maybe twice a day sometimes. And glad to see I'm not alone IslandGirl.
WTRanger Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 The thing is, at least in the start of any relationship, it is all about the sex. But at some point the relationship has to become more about making love than just sweaty f*cking. A nympho can and may use sex as a bargaining chip to get the guy to act a certain way or do certain things. Is that really a healthy relationship? For me, this would be ideal for a short fling when all I wanted was someone to keep me warm and my balls drained at night. But any relationship built solely on sex will almost always fail. At some point, it is like internet porn, you just get bored. Oh I get to have sex with you again today, whooo-hooo!
JL911 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Do you think girls simply start out their relationships saying they crave sex simply to draw a man in till they drive in the hooks?....Then they start to use sex as a tool to get what the want? Natrually men are drawn to a sexual being and when they get it non stop and its easy for awhile it pretty much takes our focus off of trying to get it elsewhere thus we end up sticking around. Its nice to hear you girls enjoy sex...Some once a day or 3 times a day or all day. But do you really keep these numbers up 6-8months down the road with the same guy?...how about 2-3 years down the road? How bout 10 or 15 years?
bean1 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Do you think girls simply start out their relationships saying they crave sex simply to draw a man in till they drive in the hooks?....Then they start to use sex as a tool to get what the want? Natrually men are drawn to a sexual being and when they get it non stop and its easy for awhile it pretty much takes our focus off of trying to get it elsewhere thus we end up sticking around. Its nice to hear you girls enjoy sex...Some once a day or 3 times a day or all day. But do you really keep these numbers up 6-8months down the road with the same guy?...how about 2-3 years down the road? How bout 10 or 15 years? Well, a lot of women don't use sex as a tool. However, even girls who really enjoy sex in the beginning, often slow down. It's hard to go from being young and having no responsibilities (ie. having time for sex 3x per day) to having to keep a house clean, take care of babies (not to mention the awful feeling of morning sickness when you are actually pregnant), and keep that sexual. It really just doesn't happen in most cases. A lot of women don't mean to do that on purpose - but it IS hard to stay sexual when such a routine is in place. Now, even with the morning sickness and the housecleaning, I still have sex 3-4x per week with my SO. I don't think that is bad at all for 26 & 32 years old and being pregnant with another little demanding attention. Am I the same as when I was 22 and we had no cares in the world besides ourselves? No, but neither is he.
CaliGuy Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Ok so I'm wondering what guys think of a girl who has an incredibly high sex drive (I mean way above average). Do you find it sexy, sometimes a turn off? Would you want to be in a LTR with her or just something short term, like a little fling? Yes, absolutely but with the added caveat that ONLY if she feels that way about me. If she thinks about or acts on those feelings with other men then no. That's not cool. All men want a nypho -- as long as they are only "nymphotic" for them.
Skump Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Its nice to hear you girls enjoy sex...Some once a day or 3 times a day or all day. But do you really keep these numbers up 6-8months down the road with the same guy?...how about 2-3 years down the road? How bout 10 or 15 years? Yes, but think of it this way: That reasoning actually implies a strong argument in favor of the "nympho" GF... To wit, a girlfriend who wants sex three times a day will become a wife who still wants sex at least once a day even if her desire diminishes to a mere 1/3 its original strength.
bac Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Ok so I'm wondering what guys think of a girl who has an incredibly high sex drive (I mean way above average). Do you find it sexy, sometimes a turn off? Would you want to be in a LTR with her or just something short term, like a little fling? What do you mean as 'incredibly high sex drive'? Is she a real person or just an unrealistic fantasy? IMHO it is too hard to meet a girl with high sex drive. Bipolar disorder has high sex drive but they are only 1.5% of population.
Author aerogurl87 Posted November 4, 2009 Author Posted November 4, 2009 What do you mean as 'incredibly high sex drive'? Is she a real person or just an unrealistic fantasy? IMHO it is too hard to meet a girl with high sex drive. Bipolar disorder has high sex drive but they are only 1.5% of population. Haha well I think it may be hard, but not impossible. The reason I'm asking this is because in both of my past 2 LTRs my boyfriends called me a nympho. Granted, they said it in a joking manner, but I was also told that my sex drive was above average for most women (I'm also realizing this when I talk to my friends who wonder what's wrong with me when I say I won't and can't use sex as a bargaining chip with my boyfriend). And Skump yes it does decrease with time. At the beginning I want sex with ONLY my partner all the time, and then after some time it decreases to wanting it about once a day, and so far so good. But I just wanted other guys' opinions on how they would feel about being with someone who was a "nympho".
Jerry18 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Ok so I'm wondering what guys think of a girl who has an incredibly high sex drive (I mean way above average). Do you find it sexy, sometimes a turn off? Would you want to be in a LTR with her or just something short term, like a little fling? LTR if: she's attractive and I like her other aspects ST if: I just want to do her for a one-night The bottom line for me is, between two identical girls I would pick the nympho over the normal one.
Vertex Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 1-2x a day would be the maximum I'd be able to physically handle before I start shooting blanks, to be honest
Author aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 1-2x a day would be the maximum I'd be able to physically handle before I start shooting blanks, to be honest Well 1-2 times a day is enough for me if I like the guy for reasons other than sex. But I need my morning sex if I sleep over my boyfriend's house, like a coffee addict needs their morning shot of espresso.
Jerry18 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Well 1-2 times a day is enough for me if I like the guy for reasons other than sex. But I need my morning sex if I sleep over my boyfriend's house, like a coffee addict needs their morning shot of espresso. Do you need penetration sex or oral/fingering is ok
boldjack Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 AG, you are absolutely not a "nympho". You are a woman who likes sex, big difference. What you really need is not more sex but to get over yourself and learn to handle these issues with maturity. News Flash.......it's NOT all about you!!
Author aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Do you need penetration sex or oral/fingering is ok Either one works for me.... and boldjack what's with all the hostility?
A O Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Ok so I'm wondering what guys think of a girl who has an incredibly high sex drive (I mean way above average). Do you find it sexy, sometimes a turn off? It would have interested me once upon a time, before I found out that such types have a higher propensity towards emotional issues than average types - so I'll give them a miss thank you. .
Els Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Well 1-2 times a day is enough for me if I like the guy for reasons other than sex. But I need my morning sex if I sleep over my boyfriend's house, like a coffee addict needs their morning shot of espresso. Gee, I dont exactly have a wide range of experience, but I'd think everyday (especially at the start of a relationship) isn't really an 'incredibly high sex drive'! Some of the responses here are just nuts, seriously. A woman with a high sex drive is gonna cheat? A woman with a high sex drive is gonna use sex as a tool for manipulation? A woman with a high sex drive is a fantasy (or has bipolar disorder)??? A woman with a high sex drive is nothing more or less than a man with a high sex drive... she just enjoys sex, and should preferably find someone with at least a reasonably high drive as well! And as for you guys who think that your girls will cheat if they have a higher sex drive than you... well, lets hope you find a girl with exactly the SAME sex drive, else YOU might cheat if you've a higher sex drive than her, eh?
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 A woman with a high sex drive is nothing more or less than a man with a high sex drive... she just enjoys sex, and should preferably find someone with at least a reasonably high drive as well! And as for you guys who think that your girls will cheat if they have a higher sex drive than you... well, lets hope you find a girl with exactly the SAME sex drive, else YOU might cheat if you've a higher sex drive than her, eh? I'm telling you from experience... that is not always the case! My XW had a very high sex drive, until we got married. If you run across a woman with a high sex drive, you need to ask yourself why. Some like you say just enjoy sex... but I don't think that is the most common reason.
Author aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Gee, I dont exactly have a wide range of experience, but I'd think everyday (especially at the start of a relationship) isn't really an 'incredibly high sex drive'! Some of the responses here are just nuts, seriously. A woman with a high sex drive is gonna cheat? A woman with a high sex drive is gonna use sex as a tool for manipulation? A woman with a high sex drive is a fantasy (or has bipolar disorder)??? A woman with a high sex drive is nothing more or less than a man with a high sex drive... she just enjoys sex, and should preferably find someone with at least a reasonably high drive as well! And as for you guys who think that your girls will cheat if they have a higher sex drive than you... well, lets hope you find a girl with exactly the SAME sex drive, else YOU might cheat if you've a higher sex drive than her, eh? Haha Elsworth I said I can do with 1-2 times a day. At the beginning of a relationship I prefer sex whenever and wherever there is an opportunity for it. But after awhile it does somewhat decrease to 1-2 times a day, which according to my friends makes a guy less willing to work hard in a relationship (I don't understand their logic sometimes, but anyway...) Also, I agree, if a woman has a high sex drive and a man isn't comfortable with that because his reasoning is that she will cheat, I'd personally steer clear of that man unless he's had some major issues with it in the past to warrant such thoughts. And even then, I'd take that as a slight sign that someone may have some insecurities about themselves and their ability to please their partner completely. Not saying any of the other posters are like that, but the idea would cross my mind.
canadaguy98 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I've dated three nymphos. Depending on the girl it could make her great LTR material or be downright annoying. One girl just constantly wanted to get it on with me. A kiss hello would turn into totally making out, and then into a backwards-faces-stuck-together-bumble-hobble into the bedroom and then crank it out two or three times. That is fun and sexy. Although if I wasnt interested I could tell she didnt like it but she'd disengage. 50/50 LTR material. Another girl was brutal about it, would literally make demands and then get pissy if I didn't comply, it was such a turn off. Id be playing a video game and I'd nailed her twice that day, and then she'd sit on my desk in front of me and it was obvious what she wanted. If I didn't show interest, she'd try to give me a blowjob right then and there and if I pushed her away she'd get downright angry. That was a total turn off. No LTR attraction there. I got rid of her. Another one was super impulsive, she would want it when I'd least expect it. Like we'd be cooking dinner and she'd go to the bathroom and come out naked, turn off the stove and jump on the counter and say in this hot sexy voice, "Do me right now baby". Great LTR material in that one.
Author aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 I've dated three nymphos. Depending on the girl it could make her great LTR material or be downright annoying. One girl just constantly wanted to get it on with me. A kiss hello would turn into totally making out, and then into a backwards-faces-stuck-together-bumble-hobble into the bedroom and then crank it out two or three times. That is fun and sexy. Although if I wasnt interested I could tell she didnt like it but she'd disengage. 50/50 LTR material. Another girl was brutal about it, would literally make demands and then get pissy if I didn't comply, it was such a turn off. Id be playing a video game and I'd nailed her twice that day, and then she'd sit on my desk in front of me and it was obvious what she wanted. If I didn't show interest, she'd try to give me a blowjob right then and there and if I pushed her away she'd get downright angry. That was a total turn off. No LTR attraction there. I got rid of her. Another one was super impulsive, she would want it when I'd least expect it. Like we'd be cooking dinner and she'd go to the bathroom and come out naked, turn off the stove and jump on the counter and say in this hot sexy voice, "Do me right now baby". Great LTR material in that one. Haha I think the first girl you mentioned is more like what I am. A simple kiss, turns into making out, which in turn turns into us having sex wherever we are for the most part (almost did it in a movie theater because we were the only ones in there, but then this guy came in... ). Haha I guess I'm also a bit of an exhibitionist, but that's for another thread. But I see your point, I guess it just depends on the girl and the extent to which she's able to control her urges.
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