is this proper dating "etiquette"?

[wherethenormlppl]

So met a girl on online dating. Her profile says she is not looking to jump into a relationship but to find that special someone and move in that direction. We have ended up having 3 lunchdates which just happened to be 1 a week. So talking off & on for 3 weeks. I seem to contact her more then she does me. All lunch dates went fine. But I sent her a text message the next day after our 3rd lunch date and didn't get a reply. So I decided to hold off on contacting her to see if she would contact me. So 5 days went by and I called and left a voice message saying "just wanted to say hi, call me if you want to". still nothing. Should I just take it as she may see this as "jumping into a relationship" and just quit contacting her? Would it be wrong for me to send her an email asking if I did something wrong, instead of being left to just wonder?

-not sure what 2 do

Edited November 4, 2009 by wherethenormlppl
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[mem11363]

silence is an answer

 

So met a girl on online dating. Her profile says she is not looking to jump into a relationship but to find that special someone and move in that direction. We have ended up having 3 lunchdates which just happened to be 1 a week. So talking off & on for 3 weeks. I seem to contact her more then she does me. All lunch dates went fine. But I sent her a text message the next day after our 3rd lunch date and didn't get a reply. So I decided to hold off on contacting her to see if she would contact me. So 5 days went by and I called and left a voice message saying "just wanted to say hi, call me if you want to". still nothing. Should I just take it as she may see this as "jumping into a relationship" and just quit contacting her? Would it be wrong for me to send her an email asking if I did something wrong, instead of being left to just wonder?

-not sure what 2 do

[boogieboy]

Yeah you turned her off somehow on the 3rd lunch date. You cant salvage this one, so if you want, you can go for broke and send her an email stating that you understdn shes not interested anymore, and if she can tell you what turned her off about you. She will most likely not reply, but it doesnt matter at that point.

[Lovegod]

We have ended up having 3 lunchdates which just happened to be 1 a week.

 

*yawn*

 

Tell me when you go on a REAL date where the two of you interact with each other.

 

So talking off & on for 3 weeks.

 

*yawn*

 

Tell me when you get to the first kiss.

 

So 5 days went by and I called and left a voice message saying "just wanted to say hi, call me if you want to".

 

*yawn*

 

Let me know when you finally jump her bones.

 

Should I just take it as she may see this as "jumping into a relationship" and just quit contacting her?

 

Okay, look at the above. Do YOU sound very interesting?

 

No.

 

You are one of the thousands of boring guys who constantly get rejected by women. Lunch dates? Why not drag her ass out for a round of mini-golf? Talking? How about at least TOUCHING her? And if you don't get the first kiss by the end of the second date, then you have failed to attract the woman.

 

Also, ignore that bullcrap she wrote about "jumping into a relationship". The woman WANTS feel guilty for ignoring her own advice and fall in love too quickly. However, she won't do that with a guy who puts her to sleep.

 

Would it be wrong for me to send her an email asking if I did something wrong, instead of being left to just wonder?

 

NEVER ask about this. You will get some horsecrap like "Well, you just don't seem to be my type and I think we should just be friends." If you don't believe me, go ahead and ask her what went wrong.

 

But you don't have to worry. I gave you an HONEST answer about what you did wrong. If you're going to compete with other men for her attention, you need to be more interesting.