MissJoness Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 Awhile ago I had met this guy at the cellphone store. I was paying my bill. We exchanged numbers, and he called me, later on that day. We chatted briefly but it was late so I told him to call me tomorrow. I talked to him the following day, and we made plans to go out for a movie, but one thing that really got me was he said, "can you tell me what you look like? I forgot." I just laughed it off but I couldn't have been more hurt by this comment. I said, "what do you mean you forgot what I look like?" his reply, "you know how many people I see a day. describe what you look like so I know its you when we meet up" This guy asked for MY number, and called ME, and now he's telling me that he forgot what I look like. This was a bruise to the ego. Is this some kind of game guys are playing out here or what? I never contacted him after that. I stood him up. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 Actually, this is not as stupid as it sounds. You two had a brief meeting. While you think you did not make an impression, you did. It is just that when we only meet briefly, it is possible and quite possible to forget what a person looks like. I have had this happen before, and it was with someone who I really ended up liking alot You may have tossed his number out for no good reason. The two of you connected for a reason. But looks may have been less than the personality connection. He remembered how fascinating you were because of the conversation you had rather than because he was staring at you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissJoness Posted November 3, 2009 Author Share Posted November 3, 2009 Actually, this is not as stupid as it sounds. You two had a brief meeting. While you think you did not make an impression, you did. It is just that when we only meet briefly, it is possible and quite possible to forget what a person looks like. I have had this happen before, and it was with someone who I really ended up liking alot You may have tossed his number out for no good reason. The two of you connected for a reason. But looks may have been less than the personality connection. He remembered how fascinating you were because of the conversation you had rather than because he was staring at you. I just think its tacky and rude. That really hurt my feelings. If you can't remember what a woman looks like then you shouldn't be asking for their number then. Experiences like this makes me not ever want to try dating seriously again Link to post Share on other sites
BCCA Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 I have to agree on the tacky/rude part. I mean, he could have done it so much better if he truly was unsure of what you looked like. He could have simply asked what you had on the day you went to meet up, or any number of less sleazy sounding things. Im not sure if he was trying to make it look like he gets numbers all the time, or just talks to women non stop, but niether one of those are very flattering to someone youre asking out. If nothing else, this guy isnt the smartest man alive. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 I just think its tacky and rude. That really hurt my feelings. If you can't remember what a woman looks like then you shouldn't be asking for their number then. Experiences like this makes me not ever want to try dating seriously again I agree. And I don't I could be so blunt. But that is another perspective. Should you date him? Probably not. Should you take it personal like you were just another woman? Mo. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 Can I rehash this overly dramatic decision of yours next time you decide to post a thread about how youre not getting dates because you think youre too old? You really messed up on this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 You stood him up? Now THAT is rude. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 You stood him up? Now THAT is rude. Concur completely. Why perpetuate bad behavior with more bad behavior? Why not be polite and honest to him and explain why you don't want to see him? Doesn't common courtesy exist anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
Vertex Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 I agree that your reaction was not the best decision -- but I'd also say his question could have been rephrased to have a bit more tact, or he could have you guys meet at a rather specific spot so he'll know it's you. Or he could have asked about clothing -- anything, really. Regardless of the case, standing the guy up is rude. He may have not understood that you found his question to be rude. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 (Hope your cell phone service doesn't start getting weird.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissJoness Posted November 3, 2009 Author Share Posted November 3, 2009 Concur completely. Why perpetuate bad behavior with more bad behavior? Why not be polite and honest to him and explain why you don't want to see him? Doesn't common courtesy exist anymore? I did that because it made me depressed. Like I didn't look good enough for him to remember me. So I just decided to stand him up and not go out with him at all. That was just so blatantly rude. He is the one who called me, obviously he remembered me enough to call so why turn around and say you don't remember what I look like. It put me in such a bad mood that I was liek forget it and didn't even bother to meet up with him Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 Miss Jones, for the record, you are pretty much always in a negative and bad mood on LS. If your RL follows your posting persona's moods, then you were probably in a bad mood before he called, and will be in a bad mood tomorrow, and you will be in a bad mood on Monday, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Rudderless Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 Forgetting what you look like was flaky. Standing him up was vindictive. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 Actually, I found that every time I fell in love, I found it difficult to evoke the physical features of the person I'd fallen in love with.... Anyone else....? There must be a psychological reason for this....So perhaps he'd actually fallen head over heels with you..... Or maybe he was just suffering from face blindness.... But now that you've slammed the door on his foot, I guess you'll never know.... As the saying goes, two wrongs don't make a right. (But three rights make a left.) Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 haha, I would say its almost common to forget. At least for me, I'm a little nervous when first talking with a girl and sometimes Its like I'm talking from behind a cloud. I only know my impressions of the person were good. I mean I have general features down. I just want to get to the point where we exchanged numbers, part ways and breath while I smile with a happy feeling. Then I might even be driving away in my car trying to remember exactly what she looked like and I really am not putting the picture together real well...I know I liked it. Anyway, this girl I am interested in now. I've seen her like 5 times but they are usually in periods of a week apart. At the end of the week I start forgetting what she looks like. I try to imagine it but when she shows up at my door she blows my imagination away with a beauty I can not conceive in my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
EYECANDY000 Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 i wouldnt let this be a bruise to the ego. Clearly this guy just gets numbers left and right from whoever he can . the next time he calls I wouldnt pick up. Link to post Share on other sites
mbeewood Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I did that because it made me depressed. Like I didn't look good enough for him to remember me. So I just decided to stand him up and not go out with him at all. That was just so blatantly rude. He is the one who called me, obviously he remembered me enough to call so why turn around and say you don't remember what I look like. It put me in such a bad mood that I was liek forget it and didn't even bother to meet up with him You have so many self esteem issues it's not even funny Link to post Share on other sites
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