otherman Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 So, I tried to tell my MW we needed to set a date today and she doesn't want too. She sounds so stressed out with everything that is going on and I don't know what todo to make her happy. I don't want her to stress over me or us and I want her to just leave him and come be with me, but she won't. I have an older thread I posted the other day that outlines the story if you want to read it. V/R, The Other Man
ladydesigner Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 (((otherman))) I can tell you are in a lot of pain with all the posts you have posted. It hurts and it hurts A LOT. As you have read many of us OW and MOW or vice versa (men are involved in these situations too) most of us have had our hearts broken. Most of us have made these very bad decisions that lead to family breakups, emotional breakdowns, frustration, you name it. Affairs I believe are among the worst things a person could do to their spouse/ significant other or do to themselves. Sure there are a few here and there that have ended up with their AP, but this is very few. I really think you need to let her go. Do you have any friends and family you could talk to about this? A counselor maybe? Please do not waste any more time focusing on her, it really sounds like she is not leaving her marriage. I really feel for you, but just know there are many of us on LS that are here to help you and listen to you.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 So, I tried to tell my MW we needed to set a date today and she doesn't want too. She sounds so stressed out with everything that is going on and I don't know what todo to make her happy. shes a cheater....no one man will make her happy.
Author otherman Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 No, I have no one to talk to. I am so in love with her I can't seem to walk away. No matter what she pulls me back in. I don't want to be the one she depended on more than anyone else and walk away and break her. I want to be the one to save her. She has alot of issues, but I am willing to work through those because I am in love with her. I cry myself to sleep everynight. I hardly ever cry. I am and have always depended on myself. However, I now find I depend on her for love and her caring attitude. She cares I believe, but I just don't think she has the where-with-all to walk away from her marriage. I mean I never thought I would do this, but when she leaves I will go sit where she was sitting or lay in the bed and smell her pillow just so I can feel close to her. It's truely killing me on the inside... HELP!!!!!!!
pkn06002 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 No, I have no one to talk to. I am so in love with her I can't seem to walk away. No matter what she pulls me back in. I don't want to be the one she depended on more than anyone else and walk away and break her. I want to be the one to save her. She has alot of issues, but I am willing to work through those because I am in love with her. I cry myself to sleep everynight. I hardly ever cry. I am and have always depended on myself. However, I now find I depend on her for love and her caring attitude. She cares I believe, but I just don't think she has the where-with-all to walk away from her marriage. I mean I never thought I would do this, but when she leaves I will go sit where she was sitting or lay in the bed and smell her pillow just so I can feel close to her. It's truely killing me on the inside... HELP!!!!!!! Dude she is a lost cause, she is not going to leave him. Do yourself a favor and just walk away on your terms. Because if you don't you will become the backup plan and trust me that is a sucky place to be. If she finds herself back to you, OK fine deal with it then. But you are to the all or nothing thinking and guess what option she is giving you.
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Save her?!!?!? Roflambao!!!!!!! Holy crap!
ladydesigner Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I mean I never thought I would do this, but when she leaves I will go sit where she was sitting or lay in the bed and smell her pillow just so I can feel close to her. It's truely killing me on the inside... Wow my XOM said something very similar to me, that he would not wash his shirt because it still smelled like me. I remember those days well. BTW my XOM ended things with me, I am a MOW so I really understand the pain you are in. Keep posting on here. I know you really want to be with her, but it would be a good idea to distract yourself and keep very busy. You sound like you have your head on your shoulders you just need to believe that. Take care of yourself and try to get out, watch a movie , go to the gym, whatever makes you happy besides HER. Get yourself stronger, read more of these posts, one day they will sink in and you will realize you are not helping yourself by waiting for her.
jwi71 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 No, I have no one to talk to. I am so in love with her I can't seem to walk away. No matter what she pulls me back in. I don't want to be the one she depended on more than anyone else and walk away and break her. I want to be the one to save her. She has alot of issues, but I am willing to work through those because I am in love with her. I cry myself to sleep everynight. I hardly ever cry. I am and have always depended on myself. However, I now find I depend on her for love and her caring attitude. She cares I believe, but I just don't think she has the where-with-all to walk away from her marriage. I mean I never thought I would do this, but when she leaves I will go sit where she was sitting or lay in the bed and smell her pillow just so I can feel close to her. It's truely killing me on the inside... HELP!!!!!!! This isn't love. Its not even remotely close to even being healthy. Find yourself a good IC pronto. And, even though I'm sure I'm wasting digital ink, this R goes nowhere good for you. She won't leave. Look, if she really wanted a divorce, she'd have one. She wanted an affair so she has one. Sorry, but she isn't looking to be saved or anything else...
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