omggirl Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I have a strange problem. I have a boyfriend I've been with for 3 years and he's very nice, I love him lots, he's my best friend and he's always there for me, and I'm here for him all the time too... My problem is... I am not sexually attracted to him... He's just not the kind of "body" I crave, you know? I mean, I make love to him and it feels great, but it's not hot or sexy, it's just intimate... I have tried everything and we have talked about it a lot, but really I just don't like his phisique, and there's nothing about it he can change... I'm not going to break up with him just because he isn't superhot, but what would be the right thing to do?
Lovegod Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 If you're not sexually attracted to him, you will eventually find yourself desiring another male who is sexually attractive. You're better off to initiate the inevitable. It's not very respectful of you to continue deceiving him.
greystone08 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 i understand how you feel and i think its easier for women to hide it. if a man's not attracted to his lover, it will show by his failure to acquire an erection. I understand you probably feel scared to break up with him because you might think you may regret it later. You also probably think it's shallow. That's ok, you can't deny how you feel. I would suggest encouraging him to work out or eat healthy. Anyone is capable of achieving a great figure for the body they have. The human body is beautiful and was created by God. It was intended to be in good health. Try this first but if you're still not satisfied, then take the above poster's advice because someone will definitely get hurt in the end.
carhill Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 OP, as you evidently have had white hot sexual attraction in the past, since you're comparing, how did that work out?
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