Mikau Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the right subforum, but I guess the LD part is more important than the R part in my case. I'll explain later. To make sure this post won't become too long, I'll summarize the first few months of the story. If you're interested in the full story, I wrote a topic about it here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t196436/ I met a girl online a few months back. We really got along well, and I think I have feelings for her. She said she really liked me, but didn't know if it was love or purely platonical untill we met. About 2 months ago, she got a boyfriend. I was really crushed for a while. We decided to try and stay friends. I decided that for my own sake it was best to try and get over her as much as possible, by not initiating conversation anymore. I didn't want to go NC because I really do like her, even if it's just as friends. This worked out well for a while. We hardly talked, but I thought about her, our 'relationship' and things I might've done wrong less and less. About a month ago she started talking to me more often. She often logged on at work to tell me about the rotten day she's had etc. Last thursday she told me she has broken up with her boyfriend. She said "shame you can't come to Brazil in december (I had made plans to come to Brazil in december earlier, but they were cancelled because of lack of money)" and "maybe I'll come to the Netherlands then, haha". From this I can tell she still wants to find out if we could have a shot at something more than friendship, even though she said the last bit jokingly. The thing is, I'm not sure if that would be a good idea. A part of me thinks it's best if I were to just leave her alone and not speak with her again. Over the last few days I have noticed that I have been thinking about her a lot and that I might be becoming too fond of her again. I'm afraid that if I keep this up, I'm going to get hurt again if this turns out to be nothing again. Another part of me really wants to get to know her, and to see if there is a chance we could be together. There is no real opportunity for us to meet in real life in the close future, unless she decides to come her in december, which I doubt. I don't want to push her by asking about that too much, because it would do more harm than good. So, what am I to do here?
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