ladymistique Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 When an ex adheres to your NC wishes and does not contact you, could that also be a sign of respect for your wishes? And I do mean respect, not love, etcetera. I know it can also, in most cases, indicate relief and disinterest on his or her part as well. Also, when an ex does not respect your NC wishes but also does not expressly indicate that he or she wants you back...... is that a sign of disrespect? I am referring to the "Hi, how are you?" texts and the like. Thoughts?
lilbelle Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I'm adhering to the NC out of respect for him. If that is what he wishes then I will make him happy by abiding to it. If I was to break NC it would not be for a "how are you" it would be something substantial in meaning, like for instance today I realized how selfish and unappreciative I was with his own time. That is something I would say. I have no intention of breaking NC though. If he wants or feels the need to talk then he knows how to contact me. But to answer your question, yes it is out of respect that I would do this not because I do not want to see or speak with him.
GrayClouds Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 When an ex adheres to your NC wishes and does not contact you, could that also be a sign of respect for your wishes? when an ex does not respect your NC wishes but also does not expressly indicate that he or she wants you back...... is that a sign of disrespect? Yes... While a worth philosophical question, for most of here to go down that rabbit hole does very little good. Any of those "if" question's answers can be correct for they are very dependent on the person your asking about, and in most cases there are a verity of answers depending on the time of day. The downside of this is your thinking is still on your EX while it should be focused on yourself.
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