Paralyzed Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 One day i'm blocked on facebook, a week later i'm unblocked. Drunk dialing me then sending me nasty text messages when i don't respond the way she wants. Then this ..... havne't heard from the ex in 2 weeks. I've dropped off the face of the earth and avoided her. Sunday night i get the text message. "I have a book, movie, and a bowl belonging to you. Let me know if you want them". She has had these items for over a month now. I have not looked for them and I wasn't going to look for them. I had written them off. Like all of us I struggled with how to respond. I waited a day and sent this yesterday "I can pick them up when you are home, or you can leave them in a bag on your deck". Her reply 4 hours later "should be home by 10, or I can leave it on the deck". My reply "let me know when you're home, if its too late just leave it on the deck". I didn't hear from her until 10:45. "Wont be home until 11:20. Is that too late?" Finally, catching on that this was another attempt at playing childish games, I simply responded "yes, leave it on the deck. thanks." I can't believe i actually considered going to her place. I've been so trained to wait for her to contact me and then seduce me when she thinks she wants me back. I'm glad I had another rude awakening. I needed it. I'm glad i didn't rush up there and agreee to drive 30 minutes up and back so late in the night for items i didn't really care that I saw ever again. I've given in to these childish games enough. I realize that. So, when she texted me again this morning "Paralyzed, bag is under the bbq triple bagged so it should stay dry :-)", I didn't and will not respond. I will pick it up, and never play into this garbage anymore. 2 weeks of avoiding her was starting to work. This is nothing but a speed bump. I just don't understand the whole point of what they do.
TaraMaiden Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Mind games. Yanking chains. Throwing breadcrumbs. Back-burner... This is all this is. The caliguy guide is what you need. It's in my signature. I'm sure you've been doing most of it, but some of it still might need tweaking.....? Read it, amd make good use of it, 100%. I guarantee the healing process will be quicker, the speedbumps flatter..... Good luck.
AnthonyMalibu Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Mind games and yanking chains... hehe, man that rocks. Sorry to hear about your situation, but Tara said it all. "Hey, I have a bowl that belongs to you... do you want it?" What a lame, contrived excuse to contact you. I'd laugh my ass off. Then I'd tell her to pour herself a bowl of bitch flakes and find a spoon.
trueblue72ny Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 she is yanking your chain. who cares about a cereal bowl. lol.
Author Paralyzed Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 She texted me this morning "Paralyzed, bag is under the bbq, triple bagged so it wont get wet :)". I picked it up about an hour ago while she was at work, not really hidden well enough to warrant her letting me know where it was. A 10x12 deck with nothing but a bbq w/o a cover over it. The bag conveniently was minus the cereal bowl. Got my book and dvd back though.
lilbelle Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 screw the bowl... just ignore anymore. obviously she has nothing substantial to really say.
paperchase Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 She texted me this morning "Paralyzed, bag is under the bbq, triple bagged so it wont get wet :)". I picked it up about an hour ago while she was at work, not really hidden well enough to warrant her letting me know where it was. A 10x12 deck with nothing but a bbq w/o a cover over it. The bag conveniently was minus the cereal bowl. Got my book and dvd back though. I you had written off the items, you should have ignored the text concerning them. That would have been far more effective. If you did want the items you should have responded for her to leave them and never opened to door to meeting her. At this point, as I'm sure you already know, it's time to go back to NC and stay there.
AnthonyMalibu Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Damn, I say you stick it out for the bowl now. Just on principal.
TaraMaiden Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 No, Anthony. A cereal bowl is a ready purchase. It's amazing how readily available they are... Self Respect, Pride and Dignity are harder to come by, particularly if you're reckless with them, and permit someone to steal them when you ARE looking..... She will contact you Paralyzed, no question.... "oh, sorry, I forgot to add the bowl, do you want to come and pick it up? I'll be home at x.xx tonight...." Silence. Ignore. Shut the door, and don't ever let her put her foot in it, again. If she wanted you back, she'd say so. If she ever thought she'd made a mistake, she'd say so. If she was still madly in love with you, she'd say so. She hasn't said so.... But she's so pulling you to bits. Because she thinks she can. Can she? Really....??
lilbelle Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Paralyzed, Can I ask, do you want to see her? I mean do you want to actually do it? It's seems you might and while some disagree only you can make the final decision. Will you get the bowl? It's funny to me that it all comes down to an ancient vessel like a bowl. Listen to what you want. If you want nc then stop playing into it. If you feel you need to see her, get the damn bowl.
TapiocaDexterin Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 i need to find out what happens!!! Update us please ASAP
muse08 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Paralyzed, Can I ask, do you want to see her? I mean do you want to actually do it? It's seems you might and while some disagree only you can make the final decision. Will you get the bowl? It's funny to me that it all comes down to an ancient vessel like a bowl. Listen to what you want. If you want nc then stop playing into it. If you feel you need to see her, get the damn bowl. i agree. it does sound like you kinda want to see her, PARALYZED. i think most of us have been there before. you know you SHOULDN'T want someone, but the flesh is so weak that sometimes we feel the need to take advantage of that last reason to see our ex... just be aware that your actions may cause you to start back over from square 1.
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