missxxpeachesxx Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 For the past year me and my son have been leavin on our own i used to leave in my ex partners mothers house were for 2 years of my sons life he was in a room with me and his father, now he has his own room, so i eventully got him to sleep early in his bed without tears but he still gets up half awake and comes into my bed im a light sleeper but he never seems to wake up the sneaky lil brat!!!!!!, any tips i can do to keep him in his bed all night?
2sure Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I lived this. I was a single mom when my daughter was young so it was nice to have her sleep with me. What a disservice I did to us both! When it became inconvenient for her to sleep with me, it was too late. She was unable to go to sleep alone. Each night I would have to read her many books, then lay down with her until she fell asleep, then sneak out. She would wake up and the whole thing started all over. Finally when she was 4/5 it had to stop. I read a bunch of books and chose a path that was very difficult but very successful quickly. I put her to bed, I read for 10 minutes, I left the room and shut the door. She got up &cried and beat on the door. For 30 minutes, then I went back in and comforted her and left again. She cried, trashed her room, and beat on the door for an hour. I went back in and did it again. Same thing until about 2 am. For 3 nights. It was hell. After that, I guess she decided it wasnt worth the bother and that I wasnt going to give up. When she would wake in the night she didnt bother to get up, she just used the bathroom and went back to her bed. I dont have much parenting advice, but I can tell you this worked. Never had a problem again, she stopped being afraid of the dark, she started to enjoy reading to herself if she couldnt sleep.
lostlove1 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Watch Supernanny or go to her web page. I like her advice, close to 2sures but maybe a little easier without the door banging. She shows you to read the books and then turn off the lites and sit in the room on the floor, you don't look at the child. Then when he gets out of bed you tell him that he is going to bed.........put him back and do the same thing. Don't speak anymore. Just everytime he gets up quietly pick him up and put him in bed.....ive seem it sometimes take 30 tries but eventually they fall asleep. My son sleeps with me now and he is 2...lol.....I also have two older daughters and they also slept with me.......so I think it just depends on what is comfortable for you. My son doesn't have his own room because our house is small, but when we move and he has his own room I plan to follow Supernannys tips because I've seen it work. You should try to catch an episode, it really helps me in all aspects of parenting. Good luck!
Tayla Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 On a side note- Please keep the door ajar at that age. My former bf was a fire fighter and he often spoke about parents shutting doors entirely or even locking the childs door. I needn't tell you the scenes he walked into to save a child... Transistioning the child from parents bed to their own can be a step of independency. Make it fun for them! Kids love to feel that they are apart of the adult world in having something special. Let the child have a set bedtime routine which also allows them to be *safe* and *comforted in their room. My son absolutely loved knowing that his comforter was his safe zone, it made him feel invincible! Whatever it took to calm him for that nightime was introduced til we found what worked. A night light, a special tune to lul him off or a calendar on his wall with stars to show him how many days til his big event ( sometimes it was a birthday party he was going to attend or a night stay with his grandparents). Be creative, inventive! He may slip into the old habit as this is what he has known for 2/3 of his life! But with encouragement of new ways he may just like having his own space/bedroom.
Author missxxpeachesxx Posted November 4, 2009 Author Posted November 4, 2009 that used to be a problem getting him to bed but its not anymore its just when hes half awake he gets out of bed and gets into mine!! thanks for the advice ill check out supernannys page thanks guys
fooled once Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I lived this. I was a single mom when my daughter was young so it was nice to have her sleep with me. What a disservice I did to us both! When it became inconvenient for her to sleep with me, it was too late. She was unable to go to sleep alone. Each night I would have to read her many books, then lay down with her until she fell asleep, then sneak out. She would wake up and the whole thing started all over. Finally when she was 4/5 it had to stop. I read a bunch of books and chose a path that was very difficult but very successful quickly. I put her to bed, I read for 10 minutes, I left the room and shut the door. She got up &cried and beat on the door. For 30 minutes, then I went back in and comforted her and left again. She cried, trashed her room, and beat on the door for an hour. I went back in and did it again. Same thing until about 2 am. For 3 nights. It was hell. After that, I guess she decided it wasnt worth the bother and that I wasnt going to give up. When she would wake in the night she didnt bother to get up, she just used the bathroom and went back to her bed. I dont have much parenting advice, but I can tell you this worked. Never had a problem again, she stopped being afraid of the dark, she started to enjoy reading to herself if she couldnt sleep. Me too - except mine was a son and I finally broke him of it at 8!!! (when I remarried) or duck tape
fooled once Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I heard the exact opposite about doors to kids rooms. I heard they were to always be shut incase there was a fire, the kids were 'safer' from smoke in their room (when the fire was in other areas of the house)
sb129 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I heard the exact opposite about doors to kids rooms. I heard they were to always be shut incase there was a fire, the kids were 'safer' from smoke in their room (when the fire was in other areas of the house) I heard this too. To shut the door, but not lock it. My two week old daughter sleeps in her own room, and has done since she came home from the hospital. It was hard to do at first, but hopefully it will mean we don't have to deal with this problem in the future.
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