Cimaseal2 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I work with this chick and have known her for about two months now. She just got out of a 8 year marriage and she has a 6 year old son as well. The marriage she said was both physically and mentally bad as he called her numerous names and even beat her while they were married. We are both 23 (young I know ), well we have already had made love and passionately kissed numerous times. At first she cared if her ex-husband knew she was seeing me, like she didnt want us holding hands or basically being seen in public around each other out of fear of him. Then she went to a club with her sister and asked me to come, and I did. She didn't care for about 2 weeks at all, she was leaving hickies on my neck, holding my hand, kissing me in public and all. Then last week she throws a curveball, she basically completely quits doing everything, saying that she doesn't want a relationship right now. That what we are doing is leading towards a relationship, that in the future we may have one but at the current moment she doesnt want one and I don't understand why. I think it may be because I am too nice to her, she said noone has ever called her beautiful or gorgeous before, that noone has even flirted with her at work the way I do before. She said she loves the way I hold her and look at her and the things I say to her. She was calling me hot, sexy the whole nine before last week. I think it is because she thinks that it is too good to be true, can you guys please help me? This woman is the ideal woman to me, we laugh at each other for no reason, we have so much in common and I don't wanna just lose something that hits everything I need in a woman so any help would be greatly appreciated!
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Holy crap. She got married at FIFTEEN? How long has she been divorced (you said "just" got out, but that doesn't say much)? It's possible she was starting to realize that she had her freedom for a little, there, and it was starting to slip from her grasp. Good heavens - getting married that young, I wouldn't be surprised if it just spooked her - the idea of jumping into something serious again. I think you may have been the rebound, dude. I'm sorry to say.
aerogurl87 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 You two work together = not good She just got out of an EIGHT YEAR marriage = not good You two starting a relationship soon = disaster
Author Cimaseal2 Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 Oh yeah not too long ago, we kinda clicked when we found out each of us had a child, but yeah im just chilling out now, giving her her space and throwing a compliment every few days to let her know I'm still interested, other than that I'm trying to get out and find someone that I click with that well. Oh yeah, a month ago I got out of a 5 year relationship, and I got my wonderful, although crazy-ass son out of it and some knowledge of women, however this is the first time I've actually been single in a while so it's different to me lol
boogieboy Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 SHe wants to play the field. She doesnt want to be tied down to YOU. You will soon see her holding hands with someone else in a couple months, shes starting to see the guy now. Or she might be trying to patch it up with her husband. Or she used you for a rebound. Either way you think of it, youre out of the picture.
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