mybrowneyedgirl Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 what kind of work situations are you in? what professions? what are your roles? we work in public office so i cant say much. he is an official, i am one of the supporting staff. so we are both there but not in the same office. we do have meetings that we're both in together every couple of weeks.
boldjack Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 The last affair I had was with the wife of a fellow politician. We were both of the same party, so our campaign HQ's were in the same building. She worked on her husband's campaign, and would come up to my office for a sex break every day at 2:00.:rolleyes:
anne1707 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Small company - both in senior roles and still have to work with each other on a daily basis, sometimes spending time alone together in each other's offices. He reckons its OK for us to work together meanwhile I am looking for another job. At my level and in a specialised sector, they do not come up often. Yet within all these constraints, I still work to the principles of NC. I don't chat with him, I don't talk personal with him, I don't react to him. I treat him purely as a fellow colleague. I am also completely open with my H about any interaction with the ex-OM and for now my H is still OK with the situation - he knows how hard I am looking for another job. To be honest, it the ex-OM's new partner who I feel sorry for. I did once ask him whether she had a problem with him and I working together (ours was a 3 year affair which all came to a head when I would not leave my H - he started dating this new woman immediately afterwards even though he said he was "devastated" ). He said she has no problem at all about our work situation and then asked "why should she?"!!!! In my fog following the end of the A, I managed to find pictures of this woman. She might be 5 or so years younger than me but she is 40-50 pounds heavier than me. When he was with me, he was always extremely critical and rude about women who were overweight. I think he wanted a woman who he thought would be grateful for all she could get (i.e. him) and not be able to find (in his opinion) anybody better. I also actually suspect that the reason she has no problem about him and I working together is that he has not told her about the A - especially how he kept texting me after he started seeing her and after the A had finished and that even after D-day he kept trying to have some kind of contact with me at work . Boy when that fog lifted, I really saw how unpleasant this man was in relationships with women.
1Angel Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 In my fog following the end of the A, I managed to find pictures of this woman. She might be 5 or so years younger than me but she is 40-50 pounds heavier than me. When he was with me, he was always extremely critical and rude about women who were overweight. I really saw how unpleasant this man was in relationships with women. Hi five
broknhearted Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 My MM works for me. The only thing thats makes it difficult is the fact that he wants to talk to me all the time. I try not to lurk around by him because of rumors. there already is rumors and that makes it worse. i cant make him understand i just cant stand around and talk to him for hours without it looking bad. he acts like im neglecting him.
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