mcdo's girl Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 hi.. im new here... just want to ask opinions from you guys... i have this ex but we parted in good terms.. recently he emailed me and asked me if i wanna go out with him and watch movie... whould i go with him???? help... asap...
Author mcdo's girl Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 by the way i forgot to mention he's already married
outofthedark Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Sure. Him and his wife...all as friends. Aren't all these posts in here enough to tell you that this turns out messy if you begin an A with a MM. You havent started, so stop!
Barby Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I too would advise you to read through some of the other posts in this forum and really think things through before making a decision that may lead you down a path of depression and despair becoming just another "other woman" or "mistress". Would you be okay sharing him? Only having him when he can escape the wife? Ect, ect, ect...these are questions you need to seriously consider before jumping into the "OW" role.
Author mcdo's girl Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 yeah i can imagine the pain i would have to go through.. but isnt it more difficult for him???
Author mcdo's girl Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 do you think it would be better to ask my ex bf (MM) why he asked me to go out with him again or its already an indication that he wants me to be the OW? im confused...
Barby Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 yeah i can imagine the pain i would have to go through.. but isnt it more difficult for him??? And why would it be?
Author mcdo's girl Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 that he needs to choose between me and his wife.....
Meranna Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 He won't be choosing because he won't have to, he'll have both of you......
skylarblue Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Just ask him why he wants to go out. You said you parted on good terms. He’s only asking you to a movie, not to have his baby, so is it really a big deal. 80% of my friends are guys, some are in R or M, a couple are x-bfs. We go out as a “couple” sometimes and it’s strictly platonic. We might go to lunch/dinner, a bar, strip club, etc., but it’s nothing more than if they were hanging out with guys. Just ask and be clear if you’re going to be friends, it’s that and nothing more (if that’s what you want).
Barby Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 that he needs to choose between me and his wife..... So soon after just a date? Why would you think that he even has thought that far ahead? Just ask him why he wants to go out. You said you parted on good terms. He’s only asking you to a movie, not to have his baby, so is it really a big deal. 80% of my friends are guys, some are in R or M, a couple are x-bfs. We go out as a “couple” sometimes and it’s strictly platonic. We might go to lunch/dinner, a bar, strip club, etc., but it’s nothing more than if they were hanging out with guys. Just ask and be clear if you’re going to be friends, it’s that and nothing more (if that’s what you want). Exactly. To the OP seems like you're getting just a little ahead of yourself here.
Author mcdo's girl Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 thanks guys.. im just confused.. i asked him im gonna bring a friend but he said it would be better if no one knows... its so complicated since im also in a relationship...
jwi71 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 thanks guys.. im just confused.. i asked him im gonna bring a friend but he said it would be better if no one knows... its so complicated since im also in a relationship... Oh...this isn't complicated at all. Its REALLY simple. He wants an affair. With you. So...do you want to betray your bf and his W?
Lucky_One Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I just don't get the whole idea of flirting with entering an EMA. You are trying actively to get pregnant with your current BF. Why would you even entertain the thought of an affair?
Barby Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 I just don't get the whole idea of flirting with entering an EMA. You are trying actively to get pregnant with your current BF. Why would you even entertain the thought of an affair? :confused: Right!! :confused:
Author mcdo's girl Posted November 4, 2009 Author Posted November 4, 2009 i think im not entertaining an A with my ex (MM)... im just a bit confused on what to do..
silverfish Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 if you're confused then dont do anything. just because someone asks you to do something doesnt mean you have to answer yes or no just ignore if you want. You might need to question yourself..why do you need validation from the attention of this man right now? What is he offering you that is lacking in your life? He wants something from you, doesnt mean you have to give it to him right? Dont respond at all til you are ready, prepared whatever. If you arent dont bother answering him at all
whatisgoingon Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 that he needs to choose between me and his wife..... Hard as it is to hear, he WILL NOT CHOSE YOU, he will have his cake and eat it too!!! Take these peoples advice dont do it...
Author mcdo's girl Posted November 4, 2009 Author Posted November 4, 2009 thanks... i think the only reason im confused right now because theres still a part of me that want to go out with him... but i know i will NOT be on the win-win situation here.. thanks for making things clearer...
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