Something wrong with his SEXUALITY if he said this AFTER touching my privates ?

November 3, 2009

well i guess to be scientific about it, i am looking down or busy 75% of the time while giving oral. But when i look up ive only seen him look at me twice.
Its just strange that he looks like he is concentrating.
Plus my other two guys said i gave insanely good oral and accused me of being experienced. lol
but he actually critiques me a lot which is confusing.

well, yes i get your point about not being able to look at him constantly!

does he fault you, or does he ask you do it a certain way?

if its the latter, it may be that cos he's been with so many women some of them have done stuff that he likes and he wants you to do the same.

men can look all types of weird when receiving so i cant really comment on the 'concentrating' thing!

November 3, 2009

well, yes i get your point about not being able to look at him constantly!

does he fault you, or does he ask you do it a certain way?
if its the latter, it may be that cos he's been with so many women some of them have done stuff that he likes and he wants you to do the same.

men can look all types of weird when receiving so i cant really comment on the 'concentrating' thing!

well he certainly isnt nasty about it at all. he just tells me i lick and use too much technique (no idea what that means) and I just should just use a lot more hard strong friction. Um kay.....

Anyway thats no bearing on whether he is bi or gay.

I dont know maybe he is just a straight guy who is repressed from being brought up in super strict household and was sent to all boys catholic and military schools.

he sometimes acts like girls are these hot creatures whom he loves /hates.

he does have a crush on megan fox and thats not gay. (my gay guy friends have better taste than that !)

but then again he says he wishes he looked like david beckham cause he's 'so pretty'

November 3, 2009

he says he wishes he looked like david beckham cause he's 'so pretty'

He called a guy pretty?

I've never heard a guy in my lifetime use the term pretty to describe another male. Whether they are joking around or serious. That is a bit odd.

November 4, 2009

He called a guy pretty?

I've never heard a guy in my lifetime use the term pretty to describe another male. Whether they are joking around or serious. That is a bit odd.

he does say it in an ironic tone, not swooning.

the thing is is that my gay male friends are the ONLY ones who don't think he's gay.

they just say he's a weird straight guy who is a social misfit even though they agree he is good looking.

November 4, 2009

What is it that attracts you to this guy? Is there any emotional / sexual chemistry there? Not that this is the ONLY thing, but I'm just wondering, from your description, it doesn't sound like he's very much invested - or even all that much interested - in the man/woman emotional/sexual intimacy part of the relationship...

Are you 'moving close' to be near him, or for another coincidental reason?

November 4, 2009

I think he's definitly bi/or gay. Regardless you two don't seem like much of a match. You should break it off, i think.

November 4, 2009

What is it that attracts you to this guy? Is there any emotional / sexual chemistry there? Not that this is the ONLY thing, but I'm just wondering, from your description, it doesn't sound like he's very much invested - or even all that much interested - in the man/woman emotional/sexual intimacy part of the relationship...

Are you 'moving close' to be near him, or for another coincidental reason?

Besides the job, I have tons of other friends and things drawing me to his city.

There is plenty of emotional chemistry and we kiss a lot, but it's like there is some hollow spot where the sexual chemistry is supposed to be. he seemed to have MORE of it towards me when i had a bf. he kept telling me to leave my bf and date him.

November 4, 2009

There is plenty of emotional chemistry and we kiss a lot, but it's like there is some hollow spot where the sexual chemistry is supposed to be.

How I know that feeling and if you stay in it long enough he'll blame you for the poor sex life and you'll start to blame yourself and it will really mess up your head and your self esteem. This guy sounds gayer than my ex, and mine left to go date guys. Who knows what this man wants? Maybe he wants to get married and have children but after he uses you, he won't be able to keep an erection for you and he'll leave and . . . And you'll be really mad about how much of your life you wasted on this man. Yeah, cut your losses now and be glad you didn't go the whole way with him. You guys can always be friends--I think I'll be able to be friends with my ex after I stop being pissed about being used. I'm actually looking forward to finding a man who can love me for what I am instead of what he wishes I was.

November 4, 2009

How I know that feeling and if you stay in it long enough he'll blame you for the poor sex life and you'll start to blame yourself and it will really mess up your head and your self esteem. This guy sounds gayer than my ex, and mine left to go date guys. Who knows what this man wants? Maybe he wants to get married and have children but after he uses you, he won't be able to keep an erection for you and he'll leave and . . . And you'll be really mad about how much of your life you wasted on this man. Yeah, cut your losses now and be glad you didn't go the whole way with him. You guys can always be friends--I think I'll be able to be friends with my ex after I stop being pissed about being used. I'm actually looking forward to finding a man who can love me for what I am instead of what he wishes I was.

Well he really DOES want kids a lot and would make a nice dad.

He says he got pets because he feels old and wants something to take care of ...

Right now he texted me he is having a good night after eating and drinking a lot with his brothers and is chilling with his two puppies on his lap.

Gee guess if I dont find the right straight guy soon he can be my own personal sperm donor. And since his brothers dont want kids and he is the eldest his parents are putting mad pressure on him.

I just don't understand how he is conservative politically and gay.

November 4, 2009

I just don't understand how he is conservative politically and gay.

Heh... would you expect that those would be mutually exclusive?

Although, that could explain why he hides it...

January 22, 2010

Update time.

So I think he has some kind of hang up and only wants to sleep with women who are skinny with tiny hips and butts.

He revealed around NYE that he is writing again to a woman he dated last year and who left him when her super rich ex bf came calling.

she is now single again and he says theyre only writing as friends.

but i know she is size 0 and he even once remarked how when they were dating she showed him her bra and it costs 350.

i know he was fascinated by her because he said she looked great and was rich herself and also had a great career.

we've kept dating but it seems like he likes the fact that a couple of other women like him.

he basically spilled the beans again about how hot i would look at size 2 or 0.

every single girl he has dated seriously besides me has been super fit and slim.

so he likes my personality a lot, he just doesnt seem to want to have sex unless im skinny'

i asked him why we still havent had actual sex sex and he said oh i just seem so virginal....

uh, ive had my mouth wrapped around his member about 25 times.

How virginal is that ?>

January 22, 2010

Sexual Hang-Up's or not:

If any man feels a womans anatomy is nasty...

(and youre a heterosexual female)

You best cut your loses and move to the next man (who appreciates it), immediately!

Edited January 22, 2010 by OndaChin

January 22, 2010

He called a guy pretty?

I've never heard a guy in my lifetime use the term pretty to describe another male. Whether they are joking around or serious. That is a bit odd.

I use this all the time, especially when describing miscast actors. That guy they cast for the young Capt. Kirk in the most recent Star Trek movie was way too pretty for that role.

And want to raise another issue, but don't want to gender bait unduly. I'm sick and tired of women sitting around and pondering about a particular man's sexuality. It seems quite vogue to try to apply "gaydar" to men just because a) they aren't trying to get in a particular woman's pants (he didn't try to f*ck me, he must be gay), or b) they are products of a society that has literally drained lots of the masculinity out of being a man while simultaneously pushing the gay lifestyle to the forefront of media.

Gayness and being gay have been pushed to the forefront of our culture in a pervasive way. Anyone who doesn't see it doesn't watch any television, movies, use the internet or read magazines. I submit that rather than worrying about whether this dude or that dude is gay because of media references they make or respond to, that the really closeted gay men aren't saying a word about gayness, or gay culture, and in fact are likely compensating in the other direction by trying to appear completely normal or even a bit overmacho.

Am making such a deal of this because a couple weeks back, was at a party and the women were sitting around talking about so and so (mutual acquaintance) being gay. I know the person in question quite well, much better than they do, have for several decades, and know as a matter of indisputable fact that he is not gay. I told the women this, and they continued on blithely describing the guy as gay. Pure female character assassination in action. It's slanderous, but somehow women think this is cool or ok. It seems one way that women display general bitterness against men, and kind of like a group control game. Needs to stop, and some of the replies in this thread are indicative of that kind of thinking/talking.

So, with respect to OP's guy, the "cooter" thing can be geographic or cultural. I have had roommates in the past who used that term as a product of where they grew up. The "midnight cooch" comment is mildly disturbing, but should be written off as a dream. The other stuff, most of it anyway, shows sexual security, rather than insecurity.

I personally wouldn't have issue one with getting a massage from a gay man, and probably have in the past. Him doing his job is not going to "turn me gay" or awaken some hidden, primal urge towards gayness. In the case of the gay calf massage guy, it's the one who says "no way is some faggot going to put his hands on me!" who has issues, not the guy who sits down and gets a massage without a care in the world.

January 22, 2010

He definitely has some sort of issues with sexuality and intimacy. I strongly don't feel that this is because he is bi/bicurious, he my be, but that isn't the issue. My ex bf was bi and my experience with him was nothing like what you describe. Of course not all bi men will have the same attitude towards women but I don't think this is about sexual preference.

January 22, 2010

Sounds like he's comfortable enough with his sexuality to joke about it, but not comfortable enough to come out and say he is bisexual.

January 22, 2010

he basically spilled the beans again about how hot i would look at size 2 or 0.

every single girl he has dated seriously besides me has been super fit and slim.

ummm, hello? This is so obvious....he thinks youre too big for him, hes not sexually attracted to you, he's just using you for company.

why havent you left him already?

If youre not going to get down to a size 0 to get him attracted to you...which isnt guaranteed..whats the point of putting up with this?

so he likes my personality a lot, he just doesnt seem to want to have sex unless im skinny'

i asked him why we still havent had actual sex sex and he said oh i just seem so virginal....

This is a great excuse that insults you and fake compliments you at the same time, and you fell for it! or maybe you know its a lie, but since you didnt call him out on it, you put up with it.

You think youcant do any better than this guy?

He doesnt sound gay to me, just selfish and clever, and I wonder where he's getting his sex from if it isnt from you.

January 23, 2010

Oh girl! Just the fact that he still won't have sex with you is reason enough to get rid of him. But all of this stuff about him only liking 'skinny' women and you'd look so great at a size 0 or 2? PLEASE dump him, he is a JERK!! If you don't, I wouldn't be surprised if he breaks up with you soon for the ex he is back in contact with..

January 23, 2010

ummm, hello? This is so obvious....he thinks youre too big for him, hes not sexually attracted to you, he's just using you for company.
why havent you left him already?

If youre not going to get down to a size 0 to get him attracted to you...which isnt guaranteed..whats the point of putting up with this?

He doesnt sound gay to me, just selfish and clever, and I wonder where he's getting his sex from if it isnt from you.

he also DOES have a thing for chick with tiny bodies.

he doesnt like girls over 5'8 even though he is 6'1

he likes petite dancers

he told me he was happiest and finally got over a girl who broke his heart when he heard she no longer had her "smoking hot dancer's bod"

but im no cow. im 36C-27-37 and 5'6/ not exactly a heifer....

kind of crazy to think things would be different if i were 34B-24-34

Edited January 23, 2010 by LuveyBabe

January 23, 2010

Re: the sleeptalking thing. Here's a blog of the wife of a man who she describes as 'mild mannered' and the crazy, not at all mild-mannered stuff he says in his sleep - http://sleeptalkinman.blogspot.com/

If anything, it might cheer you up a bit. Some of the lines made me laugh such as these two gems (don't read this blog if you're offended by bad language...)

"Shhhhhhhhh. shhhhhhhhh. I'm telling you: your voice, my ears. A bad combination."

"I haven't put on weight. Your eyes are fat."

Maybe he has issues with his sexuality, however a guy I know was mortally offended when a mutual friend suggested he was hiding in the closet, for exactly the same kind of talk and obsession about gay men, or gay sex as this guy you are talking about. That was over 10 years ago, this guy is still as alpha as ever and still has a line of ladies waiting to oblige. So this theory may not always apply.

In all honesty, you are being intimate with him by giving him oral sex, but getting nothing in return and by that being made feel unattractive. He is also 'just friends' with this ex. He is not just friends with the ex, there is an agenda or curiosity going on there - men who are fully over their ex's don't start up regular email communication with them.

Have you ever wondered why he has gone through so many women? Maybe he wasn't fully intimate with them either, but just received his half of the deal.

In any case, whether he's gay or straight, whether he wants super-skinny, bony women or not, he's making you feel crap about yourself and for that reason alone I would say to move on to pastures new, before you feel like an unattractive piece of crap or before he drops the inevitable bombshell that he's going to give it another go with his ex.

There are guys out there with no yearning to reconnect with their ex's, who will be intimate with you and who don't insult you during their sleep-talking. You deserve better.

January 23, 2010

He sounds sexually immature IMO. It sounds like he is too much into 'types' and not enough into actual women.

January 23, 2010

If he called your private a "cooter", then you get to call his "scooter"...

Scooter and cooter!

.......lol

January 23, 2010

He is trying to lower your self-esteem and self-confidence.

I guess he wants you to believe that you are not good enough for him.

It could be a mechanism of defence because he wants protect himself from

anxiety related to his erectile dysfunction or any other manhood insufficency. In other words, he is defective sexually and he feels better to make himself and you believe that you are very defective as well.

IMHO If a man ever says a girl that her p...y is disgusting, it is the right thing to do to reject him on the spot. Because it is emotional abuse.

January 23, 2010

Update time.
So I think he has some kind of hang up and only wants to sleep with women who are skinny with tiny hips and butts.
He revealed around NYE that he is writing again to a woman he dated last year and who left him when her super rich ex bf came calling.
she is now single again and he says theyre only writing as friends.
but i know she is size 0 and he even once remarked how when they were dating she showed him her bra and it costs 350.
i know he was fascinated by her because he said she looked great and was rich herself and also had a great career.

we've kept dating but it seems like he likes the fact that a couple of other women like him.
he basically spilled the beans again about how hot i would look at size 2 or 0.

every single girl he has dated seriously besides me has been super fit and slim.

so he likes my personality a lot, he just doesnt seem to want to have sex unless im skinny'

i asked him why we still havent had actual sex sex and he said oh i just seem so virginal....
uh, ive had my mouth wrapped around his member about 25 times.
How virginal is that ?>

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