tym4n Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 (edited) I like this girl I know, who happens to be my best friend, and I don't want to like her at all, but i can't help it; a lot of the time I don't like her but sometimes I just look at her and I get that feeling that I couldn't live without her . The reason I don't want to like her is because she is my best friend and things are awkward when I am around her. I don't want to be in a relationship with her because if it ends(which it most likely will) then I will be losing more than just another girlfriend but I will also be losing a best friend. Edited November 3, 2009 by tym4n
Lamak Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Don't act on these feelings and you'll be alright.
Author tym4n Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 Will these feelings eventually go away if I do not act on them
LostInLA Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Will these feelings eventually go away if I do not act on them It's possible. Maybe try to find another girl to date.
WTRanger Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 If you are around her, the feelings will never go away. You are just kidding yourself if you think otherwise. Why don't you want a relationship? You've already lost the friendship with the addition of these feelings. Again, if you think you can maintain a "friendship" with this girl and work on your feelings at the same time, you are just wishfully thinking. So why not go for it? To me, you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Author tym4n Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 Well I can't go out with her because she thinks of me as a "brother" and I know for a fact that she does not like me in any other way
Author tym4n Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 That sounds like a good idea but if I do find another girl and my feelings don't chang then I will be a useless relationship that I care nothing about
Odyssey Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 That sounds like a good idea but if I do find another girl and my feelings don't chang then I will be a useless relationship that I care nothing aboutWorry about that if it happens. Focus on the present. Good luck man.
Author tym4n Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 How old are each of you, tym? Age is not an issue here
Trimmer Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Age is not an issue here Hey, I'm not going to rub your nose in it or anything, or joke or kid you about it, or even be dismissive if you are young (which would in some ways be the greatest insult.) But I need some context - my suggestions would be different if you are a relatively fully-developed adult (20 years or older) than it would if you are younger, and then if you are younger, it would very much depend on what developmental stage you are at. So you certainly aren't required to reveal it ( I can't imagine why you wouldn't unless you have some sensitivity about it ) but for me, without that context, I can't really give much help. I would give different discussion about an adult situation than I would with a younger person. But if you don't provide that information, it may very much limit the usefulness of the discussion from which you are trying to benefit.
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