iwanttolive Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Dear LS, My bf told me that he used to love his ex very much. They were together for 3 years and he was devastated when she left him because of she was a devout christian and my bf was a non-believer. My bf went on dating rampant and tried all sorts of vices as he felt empty after she was gone. After that he dated a girl for half a year because he felt lonely but he left her as he fell in love with me. Yesterday I wasted my day stalking my bf's christian ex. I googled her name and found her friendster profile and I downloaded all her photos. Then I created a fake facebook profile and add her so I can view her private profile. She's not very pretty but she's really cute, sweet and bubbly. Oh, and she was a cheerleader and 4 years younger than me Suddenly I wanted to be her as I felt that she is the kind of girl my bf would love. This is really crazy but suddenly I even love Jesus because I want to be like her. I'm a christian as well, but i'm not as faithful and devoted as her and I have unresolved issues. I am even thinking of imitating the way she dresses and behaves and acts really cute, sweet n bubbly. I hate it that i'm being so irrational. But I was obsessed thinking that my bf would never love me as much as he loved her. I kept thinking that she has taken away his heart forever. I also thought that if we are put together side-by-side, any guy would choose her over me. My bf told me that he can't live without me and he said he was really grateful to our mutual friend for intro-ing us. So why am I a nervous wreck now? Why do I keep thinking that he can never love another gal because his heart is dead when she left him?
drbeauty Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 you are insecure because he hasnt assured you that you are the one. i would ask him if he still thinks that she was the One. if not it could be you but if he answers yes, you might as well leave him and find someone where you are the constellation prize
New Again Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Obviously it didn't work out between them. You're with him now.
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