Girls: Height preference is ok. Men: If you have weight as a preference you're a pig

[OpenGL]

I'm sick of this double standard.

 

Virtually every girl agrees that having a height preference is fine, and it's just having "standards", yet if a guy prefers thin women...

 

From the OKcupid forums:

 

http://www.okcupid.com/forum?tid=12241354882162481663

 

i am a athelic guy... why do big girls try to get at me? they might be nice but im not atracted to them at all. were is all the girls that take care of them self's?

HEY! I've got a FANTASTIC idea! Why don't you pull your head out of your ass and try to appreciate people for the thoughts in their head rather than the pounds on their scale? Then maybe, JUST MAYBE, you'll find someone who you won't be a burden on!

Let me translate that into words that you may be able to understand: you'll get laid once in a while.

****ing jerk.

[amirpc]

Well the last poster got one thing right: If you're willing to lower your standards all the way, you will definitely get laid more often.

[amirpc]

Oh to address your post...I think most women have similar physical requirements standards as men have. I think it is more about the fact that it is taboo for men to discuss their standards because they are viewed as sexual.

 

i am a athelic guy... why do big girls try to get at me? they might be nice but im not atracted to them at all. were is all the girls that take care of them self's?

 

Also the fact that to some degree my competition consists of guys who communicate on the same level as retarded chimps is mildly encouraging.

[mbeewood]

I'm sick of this double standard.

 

Virtually every girl agrees that having a height preference is fine, and it's just having "standards", yet if a guy prefers thin women...

 

From the OKcupid forums:

 

http://www.okcupid.com/forum?tid=12241354882162481663

 

Height preference is WAY worse than weight preference. Being fat means you're a greedy, lazy slob. Being born a certian height doesn't mean anything at all except that you were born that way.

[mbeewood]

Oh to address your post...I think most women have similar physical requirements standards as men have. I think it is more about the fact that it is taboo for men to discuss their standards because they are viewed as sexual.

 

 

 

 

Weight preference actually makes sense, height preference doesn't

[amirpc]

Weight preference actually makes sense, height preference doesn't

 

haha I don't think anyones preferences in a mate make more or less sense, I think people are allowed to choose based on whatever criteria they want.

[BCCA]

The person who wrote the angry response probably falls under the category of a 'big girl' and probably doesnt like the reality that people are going to judge her based on her size, especially on a dating website.

 

You cant please everyone.

[amirpc]

The person who wrote the angry response probably falls under the category of a 'big girl' and probably doesnt like the reality that people are going to judge her based on her size, especially on a dating website.

 

Oh, I was working off of the assumption that she's a little hefty and none to happy about it.

[mbeewood]

haha I don't think anyones preferences in a mate make more or less sense, I think people are allowed to choose based on whatever criteria they want.

 

Well height requirements and preferences make no sense, because a persons height dictates absolutely nothing. Weight on the other hand, if a girl is fat it means she's unhealthy, lazy, greedy.

[amirpc]

Weight on the other hand, if a girl is fat it means she's unhealthy, lazy, greedy.

 

I think that's pretty mean and unfair.

[carhill]

If you're a man, get used to being called a pig. It's a long life

[Skump]

I'm sick of this double standard.

 

Virtually every girl agrees that having a height preference is fine, and it's just having "standards", yet if a guy prefers thin women...

 

The double standard exists because lots of women are inculcated to be narcissists, and suffer from latent insecurities about their desirability.

 

IMO, the source of the quoted woman's rage is the common disconnect between what women are taught as girls and the reality of dating economics. Most girls are taught that they should expect men to pursue them. They believe they have the upper hand in relationships, the "right of choice." But this is true for only about 8 years, from the start of high school until the end of college. After that, it's a man's game - and with the trend toward later marriages, the female relationship advantage (in the context of marriage) has basically been eroded into nothing.

 

Girls' psychology hasn't yet caught up with reality, however, and fat girls - like most other girls - still expect guys to come to them, regardless of their own age/desirability. So when they hear desirable guys state their (perfectly rational) desire for thin partners, they suffer a massive case of cognitive dissonance and feelings of impotence. When compounded upon their innate fears of rejection, this leads to much wailing and gnashing of teeth.

[Treasa]

I think that's pretty mean and unfair.

 

I smell a troll. Don't give in to it.

 

Yes, everyone has a right to their preferences. When I was heavy I never had a problem getting a good quality man.

 

I think people just b*tch and moan too much, rather than just making their own happiness and attracting people along the way.

 

Who the hell cares what people like? Not EVERYONE cares about height or weight, and the ones who do can go ahead and care all they want. If they want to also whine about it, hey, more power to them.

[Stockalone]

I'm sick of this double standard.

 

Virtually every girl agrees that having a height preference is fine, and it's just having "standards", yet if a guy prefers thin women...

 

A preference is just a preference, there is nothing evil about it and there is no better or worse. We all are shallow in that regard.

 

Besides, women have weight preferences too. Since I have gotten fat, they hardly ever look at me, let alone smile at me. I don't blame them though.

 

However, if a woman called me a pig for my preference (I prefer women with larger breasts), I'd just smile and not let it bother me.

[Lizzie60]

It"s not quite the same 'preference' ...

 

One cannot control his height.. but one can control his weight..

[627]

women do have a weight preference too

so it's height and weight

 

overweight is never attractive regardles of gender

[Jersey Shortie]

If you're a man, get used to being called a pig. It's a long life

 

Boohoo Carhill. And if your a woman get use to be called a slut if your like sex, a prude if you are more careful about your sexual activities, a bitch for being assertive.....Women get called three times as many names as men do.

[AD1980]

Its a great point,were all allowed to have preferences but when a mans states them as a dealbreaker hes a slimy dirtbag a women is entitled to it by other women..

 

I just think allot of wmen can be insensitive especially to short men..Its not just they have a preference for tall men which is fine but some women seem to have a condscennding attitude and almost bitterness towards short men ..

 

I just find it funny that allot of women are so insecure about their own looks and how theyre judged yet have no hesitation being insensitive when judging mens looks and theyre dislikes ..

 

They dont want to be judged harshly yet they judge so harshly..

Edited November 3, 2009 by AD1980

[627]

we can't bend reality people

we just need to adjust to it

it's just how the world is

[Untouchable_Fire]

Boohoo Carhill. And if your a woman get use to be called a slut if your like sex, a prude if you are more careful about your sexual activities, a bitch for being assertive.....Women get called three times as many names as men do.

 

Good point!

 

No matter what we do... someone will always be there to disagree.

[JL911]

The weight thing works both ways...I HAVE turned girls down because they are disgustingly too skinny...But have dated girls who are maybe a bit overweight by medical standards....

 

On the flip side im a pretty big guy 6' 255lbs and really havent had an issue with girls finding me attractive simply because im not very self conscious and very comfortable with being a big guy. Most girls I have dated told me im like a big teddy bear and they feel very safe with me.

 

I however know not to trust a pretty face and am more into finding the total package of looks and personality rather than just trying to get laid and taking whatever i can get...

[fral945]

Usually the women raising hell are fatties themselves. Considering most women are overweight and/or obese, expect to be torn a new one if you post in a forum about a preference for women that aren't overweight.

 

You're right in that there is a double standard, but that's because women can get away with it. Just look at online dating as an example. If a woman states a height preference (say 5'10" and above), she will likely offend short guys (which account for ~50% of the male population), but it's not likely any tall guys will see that as a problem as long as she is good looking.

 

OTOH, if a man was bold (and stupid enough) to state "no fatties" (or something to that effect) in his profile he would not only alienate overweight and obese women (which account for approximately 60% of the population), but he would also offend nearly every non-overweight woman and be seen as shallow. I would honestly be amazed if he received any responses from women.

 

The moral of the story is that women can get away with the double standard because enough men allow it.

[Jaytb]

OP ignore them. Having a weight preference is a-ok by my standards. So is having a height preference if you're a female. Let's not focus on what some random person on the internet thinks.

[Jersey Shortie]

I however know not to trust a pretty face and am more into finding the total package of looks and personality rather than just trying to get laid and taking whatever i can get...

 

Thumbs up to you JL.

[mbeewood]

OP ignore them. Having a weight preference is a-ok by my standards. So is having a height preference if you're a female. Let's not focus on what some random person on the internet thinks.

 

 

Weight preference - makes sense

Height preference that isn't just "taller than me" - retarded