NINEBREAKER Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 here is a question for both those who claim to be a man and those who are women. what makes a man a man. it has to be deeper than just having a penis too. to me in order to be a man you have to -master your domain, in otherwords clean home. no pizzas under the bed with mushrooms growing on it. -geting your **** done. in otherwords not laying off important things that need to be done. -men make things. you make the money to pay the bills. men make the home livable. men make sure their children are disaplined. there is much more on my ideas of what makes a man a man. but lets hear some of yours
Lizzie60 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 what makes a man a man streaks in their shorts?
Mary3 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 The scent of a man. The playfullness when he looks at you deeply in the eyes. The protective embrace when you are in his arms. Making heated passionate love, lasting through the early morning hours...
carhill Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Mary, how ya doin'?? OP, you can be all those things and, if who you are isn't attractive to someone, it won't matter. Be a man for yourself, regardless of what other people think or say. Set your own path.
Phateless Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Self reliance Strength of character Integrity Standing up for what you believe in
Mary3 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Mary, how ya doin'?? OP, you can be all those things and, if who you are isn't attractive to someone, it won't matter. Be a man for yourself, regardless of what other people think or say. Set your own path. Gooood Carhill.....Oh also when I think of a real man I think of Carhill
carhill Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Gooood Carhill.....Oh also when I think of a real man I think of Carhill LOL, my cat agrees with you... OP, if I could add.... strong to accept the difficult physical and emotional tasks of life, but gentle to have compassion and empathy for those around him. A longtime poster who personifies this nuance would be LakesideDream. Another would by Gunny. Another, now departed, would be Owl. Read their posts and see what I mean.
Mary3 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 LOL, my cat agrees with you... OP, if I could add.... strong to accept the difficult physical and emotional tasks of life, but gentle to have compassion and empathy for those around him. A longtime poster who personifies this nuance would be LakesideDream. Another would by Gunny. Another, now departed, would be Owl. Read their posts and see what I mean. My cat too lives the life of cat luxery, laying on the floor without a care in the world....hehe... But as usual your posts are always DEAD ON Correct !
Crusoe Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 To me, the measure of a man is by what he is prepared to give.
Mary3 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 To me, the measure of a man is by what he is prepared to give. Very very well said !
carhill Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Sacrifice without expectation Single-mindedness of purpose
Mary3 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Sacrifice without expectation Single-mindedness of purpose really like that one .
Jersey Shortie Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 master your domain, in otherwords clean home. no pizzas under the bed with mushrooms growing on it. -geting your **** done. in otherwords not laying off important things that need to be done. -men make things. you make the money to pay the bills. men make the home livable. men make sure their children are disaplined. I think that's a good start and some boyish charm in your anaysis of what makes a man a man. To me, the measure of a man is by what he is prepared to give. Darn Crusoe, that's one of the most intelligent things I ever read on a message board. I couldn't agree more. For me, what makes a man a man is strength, integrity, honor, respect, respect for even those that might be considered inferior to him, sacrifice, displine, a man that can have strength and power and not abuse his strength and power for his own personal gain.
Mary3 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 I think that's a good start and some boyish charm in your anaysis of what makes a man a man. Darn Crusoe, that's one of the most intelligent things I ever read on a message board. I couldn't agree more. For me, what makes a man a man is strength, integrity, honor, respect, respect for even those that might be considered inferior to him, sacrifice, displine, a man that can have strength and power and not abuse his strength and power for his own personal gain. This is very good...
Author NINEBREAKER Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 i have another one. i wanted to add this one but i couldn't think of another way to word it. no bitching. in otherwords if something bad happens and its your fault dont wine and moan. deal with it. if someone else dose something wrong rather than wineing about it deal with it right there and then or not at all. i'm sure one of you can word that better than me. and i'm sure you get what i mean.
h2ofrek Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Civic duty and the ability to be a part of something greater than the self. The strength in the self to make that split second decision when it counts and do the right thing, even when no body is watching. Tenderness, hope and love for your fellow man without fear or ego or competition, I think, make for a good person all around. Do great things, Aloha
Crusoe Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 (edited) Yes Ninebreaker, I am sure we do all get what you mean, and the one who can word it best is Kipling IF you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools: If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!' If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, ' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch, if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son! Edited November 3, 2009 by Crusoe
Template Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Are we asking by biological standards, or societal standards? We "men" are emasculated to a point, where we don't even know what makes a man. I encourage everyone to read Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy", and you gather some insights as I have *warning: most of you ladies will not like what this book says*. Basically the jist of the book says that men are conditioned at an early age to seek acceptance of women. That means lying to them, and more importantly lying to ourselves for this acceptance. What this does is create an underlying resentment that eventually manifests itself. Ladies if you've ever heard, "You don't APPRECIATE me" in some form or other, this is what I mean. Today's "man" negotiates - I'll give you this, in return for that. We do it unconsciously. Think about this guys, would you give flowers or gifts to a woman if know she won't thank you or show any appreciation for it? With this in mind, this is what I think a man is, and I'm constantly striving to be: - If I present you with Flower/Gift/Token of love, I present them to you because I want to. I could care less if you thank me, or give me something in return. The reward is appreciating my own generosity, and not a returned one. - If I have the ability to help others, then I will. - Make decisions based on the greater good, independant of what others think. - Not to judge, and behave irregardless of being judged. - Have my happiness dependant on my action and decisions, and not others.
cocochanel34 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 i have another one. i wanted to add this one but i couldn't think of another way to word it. no bitching. in otherwords if something bad happens and its your fault dont wine and moan. deal with it. if someone else dose something wrong rather than wineing about it deal with it right there and then or not at all. i'm sure one of you can word that better than me. and i'm sure you get what i mean. In the rodeo world, they say "Cowboy UP"...
Mary3 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Yes Ninebreaker, I am sure we do all get what you mean, and the one who can word it best is Kipling IF you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools: If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!' If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, ' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch, if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son! I really really LOVED this !
burning 4 revenge Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Kipling wrote that? And here I thought it was Joni Mitchell all this time
Mary3 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 The essence of man is strength. Is that picture you ? If so , you are very pretty !
threebyfate Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Is that picture you ? If so , you are very pretty !Thanks. It might have to do with my wedding day! Beyond strength, a man holds and protects his turf, which includes his loved ones.
Not the love ace Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 i have another one. i wanted to add this one but i couldn't think of another way to word it. no bitching. in otherwords if something bad happens and its your fault dont wine and moan. deal with it. if someone else dose something wrong rather than wineing about it deal with it right there and then or not at all. i'm sure one of you can word that better than me. and i'm sure you get what i mean. That's what I usually do. The only time I'll let things off my chest is on these forums, other than that I just keep walking through the thorned bush.
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