Your Favourite Smile Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Im going to put it simply, im not over a long term ex who treated me mostly wrong. I walked past him today thinking that he may just contact me, only to find out just now that he is going out with a girl two years younger than him. So, i dont know what to think really. Im ok at the moment but sometimes i have really down points of crying my eyes out- which may happen tonight. Im also a sufferer of Trich, which isnt too good in times of stress. I dont know what im more upset at, the idea that he is most definitely over me, or the idea that being in a relationship with a girl much younger than him confirms my fear of him being so.. stupid. It seems he has opted for the route of taking any girls he can get, i was his longest relationship and most likely always will be . Ok, im rambling on.. I havnt posted in a very long time, and i just want some words to make me feel valued and well.. better really? Im still not over him and its been 6 months :/ Im quite worried. I dont feel the need to be in a relationship..
LostInLA Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Sadly, this is quite normal for you to feel this way. It's hard enough getting over a break up but then finding out your ex has moved on with someone new is even more devastating. 2 years isn't that much younger, my ex is 31 and his new gf is 26. That was very upsetting to me but it's been a while for them and now I don't care as much. And look at it this way, isn't it sad that he'll take whatever he can get? Same sitch with my ex, as shallow as this sounds...his new gf is just not that cute and he's a into being fit and well, she just uhhh isn't (to put it nicely - I never thought he would be interested in that kind of girl)....plus what kind of girl dates a guy who JUST got out of a 10 year relationship? Desperate much? Or he didn't tell her and he's a liar for not doing so. Either way it's just a lame-o situation haha Also, he even told me he just can't be alone now. That's not very mature or strong...why would I want someone like that? So anyways, realize it is ok to still be hurting. Judging yourself in this way only hinders your healing. Good for you for being strong and deciding to be single right now! You should really give yourself kudos for that instead of jumping into another relationship when you aren't really ready. Now THAT is strong and mature!
angelface78 Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 My ex fiance of 5 years...is with a new girl as well. Its only been 3 months since the break up. He is 28 she barely turned 20. She is not his type at all. Not good looking. I dont understand why he is with her!! I have learned to accept it though! You have to move on...theres nothing else you can do. Hang in there. Im coping and just think that she will never be you and in the long run these girls will not make these guys happy!!!
USMCHokie Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Angel, you're certainly right...somehow our exes always manage to downgrade...big time...mine did too...and she sure has made a big deal out of this guy and how much she's into him...she seems like she needs everyone and their mom to know about him...it's almost unfortunate... But they're just trying to fill a void that was once you...and you know what...? You know and they know that that void can never be completely filled...not this soon...and not like that...you need to fill that void with yourself...learn to be a complete and happy person all on your own...that way, you'll never have a void to fill, only someone to complement and add to a whole person...
LostInLA Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Angel, you're certainly right...somehow our exes always manage to downgrade...big time...mine did too...and she sure has made a big deal out of this guy and how much she's into him...she seems like she needs everyone and their mom to know about him...it's almost unfortunate... But they're just trying to fill a void that was once you...and you know what...? You know and they know that that void can never be completely filled...not this soon...and not like that...you need to fill that void with yourself...learn to be a complete and happy person all on your own...that way, you'll never have a void to fill, only someone to complement and add to a whole person... This is so true. My ex would rather be with someone than just himself. Sad.
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