soyou Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Never thought that this could happen to me. Many friends and people around broke off with each other but I never never thought one day it would be my turn. I've been together with my ex BF for two years. When he was with me, I always felt his love for me very strong. It was shown by the way he cared about me from smile things to big things. We talked, we laughed, and we shared every little thing together. The only thing bothered me was that he said he lived with his counsins and ant and, therefore never invited me to come to his apartment (Except the two very first times when we just got to know each other over 2 years ago, and there was noone at home). He told me that he did not want people to get involved in our relationship. When he has time, he just wants to stay with me, does things with me. Any noone else should be involved. Because I barely know anyone from his side so the suspicion just grows and grows so big inside my brain. One the other hand, I also trust him very much because he is a person with a strong sense of black and white, right and wrong. When he says something, he really means it. As I notice, he does not hang out. He is very work-aholic and does not have any spare time and if he has, as he claimed he spent his spare time with me. We have had fights so many times about he excluding me out of his circle. He told me clearly that he could introduce me to his family first, who are his father, mother, and sisters in his home country. Instead of, introducing me to his ant and counsins, who play no roles in his life. He said it's his rule. Also, he does not have any friend here, only business partners, and all of his friends are in his country and if we go there, he will intrdoduce me to them. We have discussed about going to his country but the time was not defined. So in the beginning of October 2009, I brought back this issue again and we had a big fight. He challanged me that "If you want to walk away, just walk away. Dont act stupid since I have explained to you so many times already". So I said "You know what, I am walking away from you right now". Then I hang off the phone. AFter that he wrote me an email implying that I acted stupid and non-sense, and that was his last email to me and I should not borther writing him back. As he wished, I did not. Yesterday, after 3 weeks of breaking -up, I just felt that I missed him so much and everything was not yet clear. Noone breaks up with their GF just because she wants to come to his house and get introduced to his ant and counsins. I want to know if there is another woman + (children) invoved, it will be clear and easier for me to move on. He hang off on me a couple of times and asked me to write to him so I did. AFter writing back and forth, in the end he said love does not matter anymore because whatever I did, I did. It hurt him and he has accepted the fact that we wont be together anymore. He also stated clearly that he doesnt have any other woman. He doesnt want to waste time and moeny in playing love games with women. He also told me that if he had another woman, she would have come to break me off long long time ago. He said it was me he used to think everymorning when he woke up and everynight when he slept. But now, my actions and behaviors killed all of these feelings and he does not care or want to get back anymore. In the end of his last email, he said " If you really want to find ways to fix something or make it better, the best thing is to find a way not to break it in the first place. Repairs or replacements always start from the begining. But, I'm sure you already knew that. Well, love has nothing to do with it. It was interesting. Bye". Could anyone please give me some insights? I know it does not matter anymore and I should be moving on. But what bothers me is "am I wrong all about this?" or "is he fooling me around and bull****ting me?" Anyone, who has been in this situation, please enlighten me so that I can open my eyes and get moving on. I am so confused.....
whattodoooo Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 hes turning the whole situation around blaming you when you didnt do anything except want to meet his family, that isnt bad at all. you didnt lose him, he lost you he is stupid for that and you shouldnt feel guilty because from what you wrote you didnt do anything wrong and hes going to not care about you anymore because you wanted to meet his family? thats ridiculous. ugh guys dont make sense sometimes.
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