Lucy Loverheart Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Hello, I posted on this website a few years back and found the repsponses so helpful, spot-on and kind. I met a guy nearly a fortnight ago on a Thursday evening at a party. We clicked, got on and spent the entire night together - much like a first date. Following this - he spent the next week texting me at last once or twice a day (to which I repsonded!) and he called me once too for a chat. We met for our second (first official date I guess!) last Thursday and again all went well. He texted me the following day on Friday at around 6pm - quite a vague text to say he'd had a tough day at work with a hangover) to which I repsonded and then tried calling at 10pm at night - a call I missed because I was in the shower plus it was late-ish! I then texted him the following day at 4pm to say sorry for missing his call and to ask how he was and I haven't heard back. It's been two days now. What do you think? Am I over-reacting? Or is this a sign he simply aint that interested or playing hard to get? Please don't think I'm a saddo who sits by the phone - I'm not! But I was curious as to what anyone reading this thinks. I have dated a lot of idiots of late and wanted a second opinion. Thank you in advance for reading this. xxx
tfkizzle Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 (edited) Does he usually call/text that late? Or do you usually call/text him that late? Maybe he was trying to check up on you and thinks you were with another guy or something? Especially since it was a Friday and you didn't respond to him until late the next afternoon... Edited November 2, 2009 by tfkizzle
Lishy Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Dont text him again now it is down to him to reply He may be narked that you took so long to reply but if he is flakey like that its best you find out now My advice ... sit tight and dont text again
tfkizzle Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 And for future, if a guy calls you, I recommend calling him back, not texting "sorry I missed your call." Many people take that as a lack of interest.
Author Lucy Loverheart Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 i agree with you both! firstly - agreed - me calling back that night would've been better - he could even have thought i was out on the pull as i didn't get back to him that evening. and secondly now i have texted him i need to sit back - it sounds so simple but if someone really wants to get in touch - they will. i was tempted to send a second text - post weekend asking how he was but that would be a big no no yeah?! jeesh - i'm so impatient. and thanks for your words of support xx
Lishy Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 OK you will get people telling you to call or text him again but I say dont do it! You have text him already and he didnt get back to you so should you run after him like a lovesick puppy? Errr no, you are far too fabulous for that and if he wants you honey ..... You will know! Trust me on that! Who knows what is going on for him, if you dont know then we won't BUT dont go running and you will get your answers soon enough
BCCA Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I'll just say it... If I called a girl I was into at 10pm, and got a text back the next day at 4pm...I'd be pretty much over her. I mean, even if it was late when he called, why wait so long, and then TEXT back? He probably either figured he was Plan B or if nothing else, wasnt important enough for you to get back to very quickly.
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