Hacked into EX's email and changed password!! Should I deny or fess up??

[dani91621]

Okay so curiosity killed the cat...Im really worried of what the outcome of this will be. So please any advice on how to handle this would help.

Boyfriend of 2 years and me broke up. We have been seeing each other and things have been up and down...but we are still very much in love. Trust has been an issue for a while just because he has always been very sneaky. Well...we are still not together officially but ARE exclusive. too get to the point..

 

I was suspicious and figured out how to get into his email address...the problem is...I had to change his password to get into it. I knew his security questions..I thought I changed it to something it would be but I dont think I did...I know he is going to check his email and since this is not the first time I have hacked into his personal stuff I know he will know it was me. I just dont want to make things worse and push him away.

 

So should I fess up before he finds out? How do I go about doing it...or should I deny everything and act like I dont have a clue why he cannot log in?

HELP!!!!!

[imagine]

Nah! Confess. You can even make it sound endearing...like "I just wanted to check how you were doing..and I was jealous"

 

Trust me, if you do get married, a spouse must be jealous of her relationship.

[PandorasBox]

"I'm really worried what the outcome will be."

 

You didn't think of this before you did what you did?

 

"Trust has been an issue for awhile just because he has always been so sneaky."

 

Why did you remain with him if you couldn't trust him, and why would you even want to, if he was a sneaky person?

 

 

"We are still not together officially but ARE exclusive."

 

 

I don't get this...you are either together or not.

 

"I know he is going to check his email and since this is not the first time I've hacked into his personal stuff I know he will know its me."

 

What exactly is your pay off for doing this kind of stuff?

 

 

"I just don't want to make things worse or push him away."

 

I hate to tell you this, but you just did. And you knew exactly what you were doing. I'm sorry, but you shouldn't be surprised by the outcome.

[blair08]

You said, since you had done this kind of thing before, you know he will know its you, then why deny it if you figure he will know?

 

Why not bite the bullet and tell him you did. Then bow out of the relationship gracefully. I really don't see it going anywhere, except for it to probably be filled with more of what has been going on already. If you can't trust him, find someone you can trust. First, it might help if you work on yourself too though.

[dani91621]

Your right...

 

But you did not answer my question.

 

Should I tell him or no?

 

Do you think it will matter either way?

[JackJack]

I say tell him. He has a right to know, AND that way he can then make a decision on whether or not he wants to continue on seeing you. Don't be afraid of the outcome, you weren't to afraid to do what you did, AGAIN!

[Space Ritual]

Well which one is it? Either you are Together(and that means EXCLUSIVE) or broken up (which means NOT EXCLUSIVE). YOU CANT BE BOTH!

 

Your semantics are so full of holes its laughable.Plus you've done it before? Oh let's see I don't think he is Columbo but he will be able to put together in about 2 seconds that its you

 

If he has any brains he will run from you pronto.

[dani91621]

Well...there is always two sides to the story. So I think that making an assumption that Im crazy is premature. Yes I have done it in the past...but for good reasoning as he agrees.

 

But for an update...

 

I let him know. He understands and says it is ok. He asked that I show him I can change as he will too. Sorry but nothing worth having is not worth fighting for.

[flc]

Sorry but nothing worth having is not worth fighting for.

 

[dani91621]

Opps...meant worth having is worth fighting for...lol

[JustLooking123]

Aww, maybe the OP and the guy deserve each other.

[MizzBlue72]

Yes confess. Why do you want to be with him if you can't trust him??

[Normaeinstein]

Did you find anything?

 

I did the exact same thing once.

 

I found loads of stuff.

 

I never saw the guy again.

 

You don't trust him, it's never gonna work!

[harmfulsweetz]

Glad you 'fessed up and it worked out.

 

Word of warning: unless you work on YOUR trust issues, you ain't ever going to stop doing it. Why don't you trust him? I mean, has he ever cheated etc? If not, then it's completely unfounded to snoop. What you did was more than rifling through a phone, it was actually hacking into someone's emails, their private space. It's one thing to know the password (and even then you're on thin ice) and look, but entirely another to change the password. I've had someone do that to me once, sent loads of nasty emails out to people I cared about, but anyway, it's nasty. It's an invasion of privacy.

[NoneoftheAbove]

Well...there is always two sides to the story.

 

I don't get it?? there is always one side of the story and that is the truth