JEFF666 Posted November 2, 2009 Share Posted November 2, 2009 Today will now mark a year since my ex of 3 years left me.Since then i have been doing my best to try to heal and stay nc which i have held up for the last id say 5 months ?She would text me here and there but id never break nc cause i didnt want to.She kept mentioning shes expecting a kid in november but thought she was just trying to get me to break nc.Well last night fair enough i came accross her twitter update(Ya i know i sorta shouldnt have)I was just curious all of a sudden i saw her friend post saying (We just took her to the hospital she's gonna have a bundle of joy.I felt like a ton of bricks just hit me now only has it been a year but you already have a kid. Link to post Share on other sites
Odyssey Posted November 2, 2009 Share Posted November 2, 2009 It's so hard to let go, but it's easier than holding on to something that isn’t there. Link to post Share on other sites
AliveAndKicking Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 Hang in there. It takes time.... I know that different parts of me heal at different rates. Some things pass quickly and there are others that linger on and on and on.... I guess you learned your lesson about "fishing" huh? You caught a big one! I'm guilty of it too. It's masochistic. I have NEVER found out anything that didn't hurt. Derrrrrrrr..... My X (second one back) got pregnent, on purpose, three months after our breakup. We'd been together almost 12 years. Yeah that kinda stung A bit considering she'd kept it hidden from me for the entire pregnancy! (we were in contact due to her daughter with whom I stayed in contact. We spoke tonight in fact!). It knocked me for a loop when she finally told me. I've found that "fishing" has also, on very rare occasions, been just what I actually needed to move on. Even though it hurt when I saw that my ex had a new guy it solidified my acceptance and helped me to let go of those last little glimmers of hope. I would never recommend such a thing though. No way. NC in both directions truly IS the best medicine. It took me a LONG time to really take that to heart. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JEFF666 Posted November 3, 2009 Author Share Posted November 3, 2009 Tell me about it dude its really tough.I will admit I have done my share of fishing and where as it hurt like heck its also gotten me this far.I am now angry cuz where as I was sad I now did the match and the day I went to get my stuff and after she mantained contact saying we could be friends and she misses me.so this whole time she had a baby inside of her and I was being toyed with =( Link to post Share on other sites
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