squirtle Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 hey guys so heres the story. my boyfriend and i went out last nite to celebrate the holiday. when we got home we got in a huge fight cause my friend told me something about my boyfriend adn i tried to confront him but didnt want to be drunk and stupid so i didnt tell him the whole story. he got really mad and i left and went over to my friends house cause i was crying and upset. my boyfriend really doesnt like my friend that told me the stuff about him... he never has cause he thinks that my friend wants me for himself. so my boyfriend called it off, broke up with me and came over this morning to drop my stuff off. he said he didnt want to talk about things. we finally ended up talking tonight online. he told me that he was tired and stressed out today and had a lot of thinking to do and didnt know what to do. i really dont want to be broken up and would even sacrifice my friendship with the friend he doesnt like if thats whats bothering him but he wont tell me everything hes upset about. i dont know what to do... should i just leave him be til if/when he calls me? or keep trying to talk to him... i dont know what this means!!! i just really want to resolve this problem cause hes a great guy and we get along really well. i know that he really cares about me but i just wish i knew what to do to make him feel better about things!! im so confused and scared to lose him cause i really dont know whats going on!
Donarudo88 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 That story seems like it has a lot of holes but your mistake was going to sleep at someone's house that you know he's insecure about in the middle of a fight WHILE you were drunk. I don't blame him for having his suspicions and being stressed out over everything. It's bad enough you know how he feels about this friend. Then he has to hear of accusations and instead of you sticking around to talk and try to resolve things. You go to his house. You did probably the worse thing possible in this scenario. You shouldn't have to salvage your friendship for him if you two are honestly friends and nothing more, but you also have to trust and communicate with your boyfriend and give him the benefit of the doubt before anyone else, unless he's given you a reason not to. You're probably gonna have to apologize for not handling the situation the way you should firstly. Then convince him nothing happened while you were over there. Then discuss what it is that you heard about him and try to find out if it's true without insinuating that it is.
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