confusednc Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I started dating a girl about 6 years ago and she was recently seperated from her husband. She already had a son and a year and a half later we had a son. Soon after that we got engaged. About a week a ago we where fighting because she had lied to me about something small. I asked her why she always lies to me and told her she should come clean on all her lies. After waffling she did, She told me that she had lied to me about smoking, she also told me she had lied about how many people she had slept with, and then she dropped the bomb and told me she had cheated on me 3 years ago. Come to find out it was 23 months ago and she doesnt even know the guys name. She said when they had sex she started crying and they stopped. She has always been a compulsive liar and her telling the truth was a first. She says she would never do it again but she also cheated on her husband before me. She said she cheated because he showed her alot of attention. She has always had low self esteem and craved massive attention. I honestly believe it isnt healthy I dont think she believes thers any difference from what the girls on girls gone wild get and the attention a high ranking official would get and she would go to either extreme for attention. Not only that but she is bisexual and i have gave her permission to pursue women to fill her needs. She is the type of girl who told me I was the only guy she ever wanted to be with and if we broke up she would only be with women. Somehow I believed her. I still love her and we get along great and shes a great mom. Everyone says we should stay together for the kids but I cant get her cheating on me out my mind. I dont think Ill ever trust her nor will I ever be able to give her all the attention that she craves. I can tell she is truly sorry. what should I do?
Author confusednc Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 I think she IS truely sorry and she loves you very much. I think she feels really bad for making you feel this way and she would never ever want to see you feel this way again so you should believe she would never do it again. I also think that it wouldn't take much to show her the attention she craves. Just tell her you love her everyday and remember to passionately kiss everyday (you both would love this). If she looks pretty that day, tell her. Just remind her that she is special to you. You shouldn't give her another chance because of the kids. You should give her another chance because you two love each other and she is LOST without you.
MightyQuinn Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Is anyone else confused by this exchange?
JaggedRoad Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 It's either the OP's girlfriend or the OP himself... hopefully it's the former.
Dream Brother Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 This could quite possibly open up a hole in the internet space time continuum. I like this thread very much.
Author confusednc Posted November 4, 2009 Author Posted November 4, 2009 That second post was her I dont know how she did it though
name witheld Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 ha ha, owned. Its up to you but i wouldn't stand for it. I think she will do it again, there is a trend. Ok so you could give her one more chance if she can really prove it to you, but it could just happen again. Also no way would I stand for her hacking into any accounts! Thats just my opinion but its up to you. hmm here is an example you could take either way: I used to cheat on an ex a LOT. every time would be the last time. Mind you in the last relationship i was faithful. Had the fun in between It was nothing to do with how much i loved her or how much i hated fighting and being apart either. It was just the wrong person.
euroxx Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 That second post was her I dont know how she did it though You either use Firefox to store your passwords, use a universal password that she knows or watched you type or less likely she's got a keylogger on your PC. (I'm a Technical Consultant.) But non-professionally, she's obviously pretty dedicated to the idea of getting you back.
lilbelle Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 i think shes a sex addict. tell her to get help and quit spreading her legs for men who have no name. it's disgraceful.
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 dude, you need to leave before she does it agan. What's the real reason she is seperated from her husband. Women like this have an itch they can never get rid of and it's not your fault. nor is it your problem. Habitual liar, cheater, manipulator? why are you with a woman like this. She doesnt have you best interests at heart!
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