Bravely Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Dear all, Am in dire need of help. I love my boyfriend so much n i suppose he does love me to. We have been going out for the past 2 years of course we have had several ups and downs. He's a workaholic because he's job is so demanding. My job ain't so demanding and when i am not working all i can think of is spending time together. We still haven't moved in together yet there are prospects maybe in future we might. In the mean time i need to learn how i can give him space. I feel a bit too clingy, n demanding for attention - you know its a girl thing. Am trying to make myself busy by going back to college for a part-time course so that i can learn to deal with the space issue but it's not working well for me. I feel stressed, confused and lost of options. Or am i loosing him? How can i give him the space or what does SPACE entail? I seriously need help.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Now is the time to really, really think about what you want in your life. Not every man is a workaholic. If you don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone who always puts work ahead of you, then don't.
The Midnight Rider Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Men are pretty easy to understand. Men need a few things to be content in life and here is the list. Food Sleep Work (a man is something, he just doesn't do something. He is a plumber, he doesn't just fix pipes. He's a blacksmith, he just doesn't shoe horses. Dig?) Diversion (Poker, football, friends, PS3, etc.) Love Sex (Sex and love ARE NOT the same thing) Notice that the last two involve you directly. If you hinder the first four in any way, he will resent you. Although this list is in no particular order because they are all important, if one is disrupted all of them become disrupted. I'll illustrate; if he doesn't get enough sleep, the other five fall apart. If he doesn't get love, the same thing will happen. Are you starting to see a pattern here? What is my advice to you? Send him out to do the things he loves to do. Hunt, fish, camp, friends, whatever. If you don't live together, see him certain days of the week. If you do live together, urge him to go out or play video games or have a beer with his friends every once in a while. If you treat him like you trust him, he'll want to be closer to you anyway. NOTE: Don't be a fool. If you see him taking advantage of you, put your foot down. Men are like dogs in the respect that if you let them off the leash to often, they'll run down the street, eat a squirrel, **** the neighbor's dog and then get hit by a car. I trust that your boyfriend doesn't eat squirrels and looks both ways before he crosses the street, but you get the picture. If you look at what your boyfriend is doing vs. what he SAYS he is doing, step in. Now, WATCH MY BUNNY!
Malenfant Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Men are pretty easy to understand. Men need a few things to be content in life and here is the list. Food Sleep Work (a man is something, he just doesn't do something. He is a plumber, he doesn't just fix pipes. He's a blacksmith, he just doesn't shoe horses. Dig?) Diversion (Poker, football, friends, PS3, etc.) Love Sex (Sex and love ARE NOT the same thing) Notice that the last two involve you directly. If you hinder the first four in any way, he will resent you. Although this list is in no particular order because they are all important, if one is disrupted all of them become disrupted. I'll illustrate; if he doesn't get enough sleep, the other five fall apart. If he doesn't get love, the same thing will happen. Are you starting to see a pattern here? What is my advice to you? Send him out to do the things he loves to do. Hunt, fish, camp, friends, whatever. If you don't live together, see him certain days of the week. If you do live together, urge him to go out or play video games or have a beer with his friends every once in a while. If you treat him like you trust him, he'll want to be closer to you anyway. NOTE: Don't be a fool. If you see him taking advantage of you, put your foot down. Men are like dogs in the respect that if you let them off the leash to often, they'll run down the street, eat a squirrel, **** the neighbor's dog and then get hit by a car. I trust that your boyfriend doesn't eat squirrels and looks both ways before he crosses the street, but you get the picture. If you look at what your boyfriend is doing vs. what he SAYS he is doing, step in. Now, WATCH MY BUNNY! What a brilliant post MR. and what a testamant to the male species that they can generally be summed up in only a few paragraphs!!
The Midnight Rider Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 What a brilliant post MR. and what a testamant to the male species that they can generally be summed up in only a few paragraphs!! Really, watch the bunny.
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