MinTea Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Hey... I thought that I was going to have fun this weekend (it being halloween and all) and that I was going to get through it just fine. I'm going through a breakup (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t208055/) and I keep breaking down and breaking no contact. I went out to a party with friends last night, and it was ok... I just really wanted to have my ex there with me, or to be able to text him and fill him in on what I was up to like I used to. I held out until today... I was on Facebook earlier today, and my homepage told me that someone tagged some pictures of a mutual friend of mine and my ex... And in one of the pictures, my ex happens to be standing in the background. I saw it, and I just started crying again. I thought that I reached the point where I can't cry anymore, but I guess I was wrong. I miss seeing him so badly. So I tried calling him... of course he doesn't answer. I shouldn't be calling anyway... It was so hard to get through last week... and now here we go again... and there's a music thing that my ex and I are both a part of, so I'll be running into him once a week for the next few weeks... then when that's done I honestly don't know if I'll ever be running into him again. I don't know if this is good or bad. Last week I was too scared to look at him during rehearsal, and during our break, I pretended to practice hardcore... I just couldn't look him in the eyes. He'll approach me as a friend, but it just hurts too bad for me to just accept that. I don't know how to move on... and all this stress is getting in the way of my studies... I have a lot of projects coming due (yay midterms) and I just can't concentrate.
Exit Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Try to look at it from a different angle. Instead of saying that you have a bunch of stuff coming up that you won't be able to concentrate on, take advantage of all of those things as a way to distract yourself and keep busy. What exactly is this music thing both of you are a part of? I would avoid it if possible, you shouldn't be around him during this stage of healing. I know how you feel about having a disappointing weekend. I went to my friend's party and sat there as all my friends were having luck hitting on girls, I eventually just sat in the basement for a while before leaving with nobody even noticing.
LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Break ups suck I just read your other post about your break up. It seems that he probably cares about you but isn't "in love" with you. That's what i went through with my ex. If you can, and this is going to be really hard, avoid all contact with him. Being friends with him now is just going to make things harder for you, as you won't be able to get over the break up. It seems so hard right now but you can make it through this!
Author MinTea Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 Exit: I'm helping out a local symphony that he's a part of. They needed some extra people for one of the pieces they are playing. I had promised my section leader that I would help out, so I really can't skip out now. It's only two weeks until the concert, then I should be done. We both play different instruments, so we're mostly in different corners of the room... but yea... it's so akward. And I don't know if I'll ever see him again after that concert... I can't decide if it's a good thing or a bad thing. I'm just not comfortable with this. LostInLA: Thanks for reading my posts! I understand what you're saying. It's just so hard to accept, and I know that it's going to continue to be hard... I just gotta keep working at it...
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