JaggedRoad Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 (edited) I was sitting in front of my computer several minutes ago thinking about something regarding my broken relationship, and went deep into suicidal thoughts. It went on for several minutes while I was busy creating images for my new web comic site. It was poking at my concentration, so I stopped and asked myself why I was thinking about such a thing. And miraculously, those thoughts stopped I probably would have tried to contact the ex and make a fool of myself once again if I did not stop to question myself. I'm sure my previous breaches in NC could have been prevented if I was capable of stopping that spiral of negative thoughts. So for all of you out there who are having trouble with getting rid of your negative thoughts, try to stop what you're doing and get a clear look at things. SNAP OUT OF IT! Edited November 2, 2009 by JaggedRoad
USMCHokie Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I must say, this happens a lot to me too...especially at work...whether I'm busy working on something or just sitting around during some downtime...thoughts of my ex will pop into my mind and I'll start playing the what-if game... I agree with you, it's best to just stop what you're doing...for me it might be refilling my coffee or going to the bathroom...but I've also noticed that I actually will let myself think about it...for however long I have those thoughts...it seems that the more I do it, the less of a painful effect it has on me...hopefully one day these thoughts will pop up less and less... But I'd also agree that maintaining the NC is the best way to go...
AliveAndKicking Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Funny sometimes, isn't it, that simply recognising that you're having negative, obsessive, or other unhealthy and/or disturbing thoughts can stop them dead in their tracks. It is almost as if our damaged psyche is shoving the damaged part of us right up front into the forefront of our thoughts,perhaps so that we will (hopefully) deal with them and be rid of them therby healing some of that internal damage we all suffer in life's more difficult times. Sometimes, though, those negative thoughts keep on coming or we get stuck in a loop of repetivive obsessive thinking. It can be exhausting! There ARE some very simple very useful techniques that I have used and they worked wonders for breaking the loop of ruminating and obsessing. A quick Google search of "thought-stopping techniques" (use the quotes when you run the search!) has served me quite well in this regard. Stepping outside of our "self" and recognising those self-defeating hurtful thoughts for what they are is very healing and can give us a sense of accomplishment when we are otherwise feeling very helpless. Sometimes the simple things can be the most powerful! Great topic- thanks for sharing!
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