LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Where to begin... I had a moment with a guy from work months ago...back in May I believe, which was about 2 months after my break up and I've always been curious about this: After my break up I started talking with this guy from work a bit more as we had discovered we were going through similar situations (he was going through a difficult break up as well). I would actually call him a few hours after the work day just to hang out and eat dinner or whatever. (I always thought he was cute lol) Anyways, this one time I called him and he said he was about to sit and eat, I thought he made himself dinner so I was about to let him go but he quickly said it was kinda depressing eating by himself so I went to meet him. I got to the restaurant and we chatted for a bit. We talked about what to do next and decided to hit up this small bar down the street. On the way there, there was a liquor store and I jokingly suggested we could get something there and watch a movie or something. He enthusiastically agreed, and I actually tried to sorta back out by saying that we could go to that bar if he really wanted and he said, nah let's do this it sounds good. So we got some vodka or something and we went to his apartment and decided on a dvd to watch. I sat on one side of the couch and he sat on the other side. We both drank but we didn't drink a lot. Eventually, and to my (happy) surprise, we started holding hands. It was kind of a surreal moment for both of us but I think in a good way. Then we just basically sat really close and cuddled and hugged but he told me that he couldn't take it any further and I said, me too. So basically we snuggled on his couch the whole night but then it got late and we had work the next day. He asked me several times if I was ok to drive and I was fine (looking back...did he want me to stay over?). I thought I was leaving but he wanted to show me his new guitar so we went to his room and we chatted more but nothing else happened. When I left, he walked me to my car and we hugged for the longest time ever in the middle of his street. He rubbed my head a lot too which was cute. The next day I was worried things might be weird but he came in all happy and he said hi to me, which he didn't really do before. However, since this day nothing has really happened. We went hiking once but he kept it on a friend level. We don't talk outside of work anymore but we have lunch sometimes, but it's really just on a friend level. So I guess I'm wondering if he was interested in me at all? Is the co-worker thing the reason why nothing else has happened? I was crushing on him really hard after this, and it's now subsided, but I'm still curious but don't want to bring it up with him and risk making thing weird.
tfkizzle Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 He asked me several times if I was ok to drive and I was fine (looking back...did he want me to stay over?). So I guess I'm wondering if he was interested in me at all? Is the co-worker thing the reason why nothing else has happened? You were both rebounding. He only asked you if you were okay to drive because you'd both been drinking and he didn't want you drunk driving. If he wanted you to stay he would've made some moves, or at the VERY least he would've asked you to stay over, suggested you stay over, etc. Something else besides "you sure you're okay to drive?". I don't think it sounds like he was very interested. He was rebounding and lonely. Maybe he got back together with his gf and that's why he's not asking you to hang out. Just one possibility. I also don't think being co-workers is the reason.
Author LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 You were both rebounding. He only asked you if you were okay to drive because you'd both been drinking and he didn't want you drunk driving. If he wanted you to stay he would've made some moves, or at the VERY least he would've asked you to stay over, suggested you stay over, etc. Something else besides "you sure you're okay to drive?". I don't think it sounds like he was very interested. He was rebounding and lonely. Maybe he got back together with his gf and that's why he's not asking you to hang out. Just one possibility. I also don't think being co-workers is the reason. I agree about the re-bounding thing. So I guess because he didn't want to take it further...this means he wasn't interested? Oh and I know he's not back with his ex but I do know at the time and since then he's been having a hard time getting over her. We're both seeing the same therapist, which we found out during one of our lunch convos..so now it's kind of an inside joke...guess I shouldn't think anything will ever happen between us (when we're ready to date, we're both intentionally not dating anyone at this time).
tfkizzle Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 So I guess because he didn't want to take it further...this means he wasn't interested? That's how I would read it. When people are interested in each other they don't tend to think "I'm not ready to date right now" or "This is such a bad idea; we're co-workers" or "We shouldn't date because it will ruin our friendship" and so on.
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