carhill Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 kiss_andmakeup:Who cares what he says? He's your Ex husband, and for good reason, apparently. The OP:While we were married he didn't cheat on me that I know of cause he was always home. i cheated on him...lol!! Irony?
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 kiss_andmakeup: The OP: Irony? Still a good reason!
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Just wanted to keep the record going. Understandable! The OP has lost credibility with me now, but my point stands. :]
carhill Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Yep, the guy is twisted up IMO, but it's too bad that the OP fulfilled his destiny. Walked that path. Lots of thorns....
threebyfate Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 My exhusband seems to believe that most women have no problem sharing a man with a another woman. They just dont want anyone to know that they think it is okay. He also believes that the laws should change to allow a man to have two wives instead of one and that would help most women have a man. he believes the law has us stuck in a system that really does not work because a man should really be able to have two women. I think this is ridiculous!! I cant hardly stand talking to him right now.I think your ex is a wishful thinker and you should be thanking the powers that be, that he's your ex. But no, I don't share. If asked to share, I walk away, since the asking lets me know that our core values are far, far away from being compatible.
Author 9Lives Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 Who cares what he says? He's your Ex husband, and for good reason, apparently. The arguments that say "but in many countries, polygamy is widely accepted and is even the social norm" don't really apply to most men in THIS country. How often have you been on a first or second date with a man (in a western country where monogamy is the widely accepted and legal lifestyle), and he says, "Oh by the way, I believe in the polygamist culture and would like to date/marry multiple women. There is strong evolutionary, cultural, and historical evidence that this is a healthy lifestyle. Is this okay with you?" Personally, this has never happened to me, or anyone I know. I have seen men say this after entering a presumably monogamous relationship with a woman, and then cheating on her or wanting to branch out and see other women, and she is not okay with it. If that is the kind of lifestyle you want, the only way it's acceptable is if the woman knows before you are in a committed relationship with her. You can't date a woman exclusively for a year and then spring the polygamy argument on her (unless she is incredibly open-minded or like-minded). That's just not the way it works. Dont completely judge a person by one statement. We are truly friends. Would do anything for me and our child. We are friends. But of course this kind of view drives me crazy. I am glad I dont have to deal with him on that level anymore. As far as losing respect for me for what I did during our marriage, you never know what you will do when your back is pushed to the wall. I can tell you that cheating is not the worst thing a man to can do to you. Sometimes emotional stress is worst and more painful.He was a horrible husband. My self esteem was seriously damaged and I felt so low. I didnt feel like a woman of worth or anythg. But that is another story and at the end of the day, he is not responsible for how I feel about myself anyway so I have learned that much.
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