LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Just feeling blue right now. Feeling really alone. Wondering if I'll ever meet anyone again who I will have mutual feelings for. Wondering if I'll ever be as close with anyone as I was with my ex. It's hard being alone. It's lonely.
Author LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 I don't want to feel like this.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I don't want to feel like this. How about going to bed early? Maybe it's the weather that's bringing you down. I normally find weekends a bit tepid, and I get especially lonely on Sundays. But maybe the work week will get things going for you?
Taucher Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 LostInLa, you responded to one of my posts with a very positive lovely post, do you remember? You said about how this is a chance for you to be single and to think about yourself? Truth is, you were right and nothing has changed. Of COURSE you will meet someone special again. Of course there will be mutual, strong feelings between you and this new, as yet unknown special person. You have done it once and that was no fluke. Your ex was not the ONLY person you can feel strongly about, that would be too weird when you thing about the number of people in the world. People just dont end up single and alone forever unless it is a choice they have subconsciously or consciously made for themselves. Chin up, everyone goes though this at some time or other, it is just a confirmation to you that you are capable of loving someone. If you did not function properly, if you did not experience the amazing highs of being in love, you would not also experience the lows of losing love. It is just not your time yet. You need time to think about yourself. Being alone IS lonely but also necessary after a relationship breakdown. Being able to love is quite normal, but questioning and admitting your feelings now like you are doing makes you a very balanced and wonderful person. I believe that. Some people bottle up their feelings or deny them completely. Try not to worry! T
Author LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 Yah Sundays are the HARDEST for me, but last night was hard as well as it was Halloween and I did something stupid - I lurked and found out my ex was dressing up for Halloween, which is something he never did during our 10 years together. It didn't help that he texted me twice this week either. It's weird feeling like you are making progress and then one day you slip back to feeling like crap.
Author LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 LostInLa, you responded to one of my posts with a very positive lovely post, do you remember? You said about how this is a chance for you to be single and to think about yourself? Truth is, you were right and nothing has changed. Of COURSE you will meet someone special again. Of course there will be mutual, strong feelings between you and this new, as yet unknown special person. You have done it once and that was no fluke. Your ex was not the ONLY person you can feel strongly about, that would be too weird when you thing about the number of people in the world. People just dont end up single and alone forever unless it is a choice they have subconsciously or consciously made for themselves. Chin up, everyone goes though this at some time or other, it is just a confirmation to you that you are capable of loving someone. If you did not function properly, if you did not experience the amazing highs of being in love, you would not also experience the lows of losing love. It is just not your time yet. You need time to think about yourself. Being alone IS lonely but also necessary after a relationship breakdown. Being able to love is quite normal, but questioning and admitting your feelings now like you are doing makes you a very balanced and wonderful person. I believe that. Some people bottle up their feelings or deny them completely. Try not to worry! T Thank you T, Sometimes it's hard to imagine that I will have this again. I know this is probably normal for me to feel like this but it's just hard. :( Thanks again for your kind words.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Yah Sundays are the HARDEST for me, but last night was hard as well as it was Halloween and I did something stupid - I lurked and found out my ex was dressing up for Halloween, which is something he never did during our 10 years together. It didn't help that he texted me twice this week either. It's weird feeling like you are making progress and then one day you slip back to feeling like crap. I'm sorry to read about this. I didn't know your past, and now that I know, I agree with you the holidays are the worst. But remember that no matter how down you feel, the important thing is you know that you can help yourself up. Right now it may feel really hopeless, but in time you'll move on. It's okay to slip once in a while, but slipping allows you to gain the strength to get back up, brush off the dust and walk on. I do hope you feel better.
Author LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 Thank you. I'm trying. I'm allowing myself to go through these hard times, which I know is good...but geez it's hard haha
GrayClouds Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Yes the double wammy of the weekend plus a holiday is less fun than a sharp stick in the eye. Halloween to boot. It does its best to amplify singledom. After you grow out of the free candy stage, Halloween becomes a semi-sexual party where the women use the holiday as an excuse to dress up as pole dancers while drunk guys are desperately looking for a pole. Not the environment for nurturing a broken heart. For the single person Halloween can be worst then New Years, at least New Years offers some romantic connotation.
JaggedRoad Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Ack... the thought of New Years never crossed my mind. Now I'm a little worried for myself. Hopefully it'll be a night with my friends rather than being alone.
Author LostInLA Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 I'm just taking it one holiday at a time. I'm making sure to have plans set in stone for Turkey Day. Then I will figure out Christmas...I don't even want to think about New Year's yet!
Dark_of_the_Moon Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 You all sound so like me, I did not expect this weekend to be so hard and I thought I was doing better then *thump*. We just have to try to cheer up and see this alone time for what it can be. No thinking about holidays for the moment.
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