Lost&Found Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 This is a rather complicated story but I will try to explain. Yesterday my GF of 5 months broke up with me. She didn't think she broke up with me, she said she didn't want a serious BF/GF relationship with me but that we needed to start over and I could still "Ask her out on a date". That seems like a break up to me right? I asked her if she was breaking up with me and she got very mad and said "HAVEN'T YOU BEEN LISTENING? I SAID WE COULD STILL DATE!" Well that isn't what I wanted, I wanted her as my girlfriend not somebody I could casually date while we both date other people too. She went out that night with friends and barely replied to any of my texts with anything other than saying she was having fun (meaning stop bothering her.) The next day I texted her again and told her I know when someone is breaking up with me - she got mad at that and told me I was guilt tripping her and she changed her mind and I no longer had a chance to start over with her. This relationship started 5 months ago and she was completely infatiuated with me at the time. It was almost too much for me. She knew about my last relationship with a girl I had been friends with and had ended up having sex with (this happened 3 months before I met the ex I am talking about). She became very paranoid and started accusing me of talking to the other girl, and when she saw I had posted some silly comments on her FB page she went ballistic and broke up with me then. She made wild accusations and I just let it go, I got over her the next day because of all the mean things she said. A couple weeks go by and she is acting very sorry and wants another chance, but I didn't want to give her one. I finally gave in and agreed to go out with her. It was a great time and I immediatly started having feelings for her again. We started becoming serious and she promised not to be so jealous and insecure. Within a month she started asking me questions about the other girl I was friends with and believing that I was still talking to her (I wasn't). I told her I only got an email from her and this pissed her off again because I didn't mention it before. She got over that but I pushed things a little too far when I took my kids to an amusement park and their mom (my ex wife) came along, just to be there with the kids too. I realized that mistake and she eventually let it go and we stayed together. This girl did so many great things for me, brough me gifts at work, arranged her schedule so she could come see me, paid for most of the meals we went out for. She was really fantastic at times. But she continued to be paranoid and insecure and never believed that I actually loved her, even though I would send her little love texts every day and send her hearts and kisses on FB, and I was always kind and affectionate with her and did little things for her when we were together. But it wasn't enough - she told me I didn't do enough for her, that I didn't make her feel loved after all the things she did for me, so she ended it. She made a list of all the bad things I had done (taking my ex with me and my kids, talking to a female friend, talking to other girls at the bar) and she decided enough was enough. I was shocked. Now I am the one left feeling heartbroken and she makes me feel like I deserve all of this, but do I??
xpaperxcutx Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 The thing is, you got involved with someone who likes to by the drama. If she's not finding faults with you, she's thinking you're cheating on her. The question is were all of these worth it? I think you should be so lucky that you're a free man. Instead of waiting around for her to tell you directly that things are over, you should tell her to leave you alone.
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