jw90063 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 justlooking123 - i do feel bad, but i also understand his frustration. i really love him and am upset that this is even an issue. You keep saying you know his frustration. Im getting this feeling, you think its ok for him to fuss at you. We really need to know exactly how he reacts or what he says, and when. It probably does have a huge impact on the situation. When I first had sex, it hurt bad, but was able to get through it. It hurt many times after, but the guy was cool about it. Actually he was a kind of a jerk in many ways, but even this guy didn't get upset about the sex thing. I hate to say it, but so far it sounds like this guy might be a real jerk. He should be way more understanding and patient and know getting upset will only make it worse. Another thing, your hymen could be extra thick. That will make it worse. If you don't use a toy yourself, then you will have to let him do it. If you actually can't allow him to go inside after a good while, then it would become more of a concern.
bac Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 It is supposed to be done in one attempt by a man.
Author rocketeer Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 jw, i've gotten so many lectures and arguments about this situation that i just want the whole thing to be resolved. usually after we try having vaginal and we fail, he'll start a long conversation about what we should try or do next time. he has suggested a visit to to the ob/gyn, masturbation, and porn -- all of which i've done. he'll often follow up later to see if i've done all these things. i get annoyed with the checkups, but he says he gets more stressed when i dont updated him. he thinks i have a mental block and thinks getting on the pill will help me. he's understanding, but he's also never gone without sex for a year with a girl he's been dating.
bac Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 jw, i've gotten so many lectures and arguments about this situation that i just want the whole thing to be resolved. usually after we try having vaginal and we fail, he'll start a long conversation about what we should try or do next time. he has suggested a visit to to the ob/gyn, masturbation, and porn. You do not need ob/gyn, masturbation or porn to get rid of virginity. You may need them only in a few months after you lose virginity. They serve totally different purposes. To get rid of virginity you need a man with a hard c..k who will put it into your vagina no matter how loud you yell and no matter how you resist it.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 i expect the pain This sort of matches something I responded with to your other post on this topic. Be sure to locate your other thread.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 And geez, this near-hostility on the part of your guy is NOT helping your situation. (read the other thread)
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 It's not going to help you relax if he's going to keep getting upset. Perhaps that's part of the problem as to why you "tense up." Have you considered counseling? He could find more effective ways to communicate and help you relax. Getting angry isn't going to help. And...a toothbrush? Good heavens, girl. If the gyno says everything is normal down there, then you are NOT "too sensitive." Another concern - you should not be dry when he tries to enter. Not only does that make entry damn near impossible because of the friction (OUCH), but the vaginal canal has not relaxed enough to ALLOW entry. What other forms of sex play have you two tried? Has he EVER been able to get you self-lubricated (meaning the wetness that your body creates on its own that indicates it is ready for penetration)? If you're still dry when he's trying to enter you, then it sounds like a major foreplay problem. Are there any trust issues in your relationship? Have you ever had any kind of sex play with other guys before this one? When you masturbate, do you get wet? (Excuse the personal questions...it's not something you'd normally ask a stranger....but it's tied to the thread topic. LOL)
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