TapiocaDexterin Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Finally starting NC, wahey! I need to piece my shredded self-esteem and dignity back together. I have done all the wrong things - calling, texting, crying, begging, crying while begging, promising to change who I am if I get a second chance. And all for a man who cheated on me. I feel embarrassed just remembering this, I am ashamed of how low I let myself sink. Today was his birthday and even though we spoke a few days ago I din't succumb and contact him today. He has asked me to leave him alone so that makes it easier I guess. (Cringe) Any tips/advice/words of encouragement? THanks
Vampire Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I'm in exactly the same place as you. NC since Wednesday morning after a 10 year relationship went to **** back in June/July. Like you, I did all the wrong things and am desperately trying to claw back some self-respect and dignity. While I can't offer you any sage like advice, I'll say that the first one to cave in and contact their ex, has to buy the other something cheap and tacky off of Ebay! Break up buddies. Now there's a good place to start for all of us.
Author TapiocaDexterin Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 You're on! ALthough you've gotten a few days on me alreday grr. Does that fact that it was a birthday earn me a few extra points??
Printer Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Finally starting NC, wahey! I need to piece my shredded self-esteem and dignity back together. I have done all the wrong things - calling, texting, crying, begging, crying while begging, promising to change who I am if I get a second chance. And all for a man who cheated on me. I feel embarrassed just remembering this, I am ashamed of how low I let myself sink. Today was his birthday and even though we spoke a few days ago I din't succumb and contact him today. He has asked me to leave him alone so that makes it easier I guess. (Cringe) Any tips/advice/words of encouragement? THanks So how's all this come about? I have started LC today because I have a son involved. I know it is going to be a long road for us both, but try and stay strong.
brokenrightnow Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 yes! keep it up! stay strong, he shouldnt deserve a HAPPY nothing! hello! he broke up with you! he is the loser!
Author TapiocaDexterin Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 Its come about because I'm tired of feeling ashamed of my actions and like I have to hide my thoughts from family and friends because they would think less of me for acting like this, and i dont want to think less of myself. If he walk away unscathed, dammit I can too! Until it gets hard, then I'll need you guyses support lol
Author TapiocaDexterin Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 yes! keep it up! stay strong, he shouldnt deserve a HAPPY nothing! hello! he broke up with you! he is the loser! Thanks, he is a loser, you're right
Eisenhower Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I think the thing with NC is to realize that it, in itself, is a form of communication. You are establishing that you no longer want to talk to them. If you think about all the times you tried to talk to them or reason with them or whatever, and it never worked, you can take some small comfort in the fact that establishing NC may (and I emphasize MAY) cause them to miss you and want you back. If not, it will help you move on and gain your dignity back because most of us have been down that whiney, begging road and it's futile and kills your self-esteem. Let the NC do your talking for you. It will either cause them to miss you or, eventually, cause you not to care anymore. Either way, you'll be better off because of it. Stay strong, Eisenhower
Vampire Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 You're on! ALthough you've gotten a few days on me alreday grr. Does that fact that it was a birthday earn me a few extra points?? Not a chance pal. She painfully avoided forgot my birthday in August so it's even. I'm quite liking a lime green mankini on Ebay at the moment...just saying.
Author TapiocaDexterin Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 Also: He said that he wanted space for a month and that after a month we could get back in touch. He said that I should call him when the month is up and that Id have to guess by his tone of voice if he was pleased to hear from me or not. He said he would give me a chance of one date when the month was up, beacuse I deserved a chance, but that the chance of him wanting me back was one in a thousand, but he'd give me a chance. Even though his mind is made up. Cos he's that kinda guy. Hmm what do you guys think?
BiGMERF Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 im sorry, i am an noob to the site.. but what is nc?
Author TapiocaDexterin Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 Not a chance pal. She painfully avoided forgot my birthday in August so it's even. I'm quite liking a lime green mankini on Ebay at the moment...just saying. Watch it, i ain't making any moves towards mah fone, punk.
Vampire Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 No Contact. It's okay, I originally thought everyone with a broken heart moved to North Carolina. I figured I was screwed as I live in London, U.K.
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