DollWelch Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I can't tell if he's interested or not. I have known this man for a few years now, and over the years, people have always suggested I date him (or vice versa). But, I have never fancied him, until recently. He is a gentleman, and an interesting character. Not only that, he's incredibly smart and rich -and this certainly intimidates me. However, the contact I have had with him in the past, has always been rather unusual -or rather, awkward. For instance, I was at BBQ a few months ago and was having a great conversation with his brother, as I know him and it flowed very easily. His brother himself, was having fun talking to me, and I thought so too. But all he did during the BBQ was say Hello and stare at me. I felt disappointed he didn't converse with me the way his brother did. Recently in the last month or two, I bumped into him -or actually he bumped into me on his way out. He waved goodbye while walking away, but instead turned around and started to talk to me. We talked for a minute or two. I was smiling, he was too -almost chuckling, and then there was silence. I can't stand awkward silence between two people. But it happened. He kind of stood there, not knowing what to say. I didn't know either. In the end, he closed the conversation and walked away. Why didn't he make a move? Or at least ask me out for coffee? I honestly don't know if he's interested. Is he?
boogieboy Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Hes iunterested, but apparently he runs out of things to talk about. So you will hae to take the reigns on this one, hes too shy to make the move. If you dont want to take over, then write him off, hes not going to make a move.
hopesndreams Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 He sensed you were intimidated. He may very well like you but if you give him nothing to work with, as in conversation, he has no choice but to walk away. Next time, be more relaxed, be yourself and don't do the deer in headlights thing again.
Author DollWelch Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 Thank you, all, for the responses. Hes iunterested, but apparently he runs out of things to talk about. Considering he is shy, and I am shy as well, what does that make? 2 shy people, and a lot of awkwardness. Argh! He should step up! He sensed you were intimidated. He may very well like you but if you give him nothing to work with, as in conversation, he has no choice but to walk away. I am almost always relaxed when talking to him. In fact, I usually project witty and thought provoking comments -and discuss a wide variety of subjects, at least in past conversations I had with him. So, I'm not the one lacking here. During that particular conversation, I didn't say much because he didn't have much to say to me, so I didn't have anything really to work with. Maybe he's awkward around you. Nervous. Perhaps he is. What is a woman to do? He should DO something!
leap83 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 You say that he should step up... but why don't you step up? If you like him that much, then it's worth it.
dressing up Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I'm curious that the respondents said the guy is interested. I don't know one way or another but I would have thought a guy interested would have asked the OP out already, no?
Avarage Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 The reason he may not've asked her out is the fact that she was never interested over the years. By treating him as only a friend he might've come to the conclusion that it's better to not make a move and risk losing the friendship. Since he's always been viewed as a friend until recently she's going to have to put in a lot more work than simply waiting for him to make a move. This is all worsened by the fact that the guy is probably shy. Summary: Now that your interested you've got to make some big moves.
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