stephon3mn Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 i met this girl and we basically hit it off from the start. we were hangin out ya know goin out to bars, movies, chillin at each others apt etc. she would call me to go out and vice versa. we were hangin out alot. we were real comfortable we each other...helped her alot in cases like she lost her purse at my work ( a club) and i got people to look for it. one time she was wit her friend and got totally trashed and i came out and picked her up and took her back to my place cus she lost her keys, helped her move basically stuff like that..but after i helped her move back to her dads it started to get awkard. she was def into me before and i was def into her so when she stopped takin text and phonecalls it was weird. theres nothing that i know of that could have made her stop talkin to me? like ya got to understand we were on the verge of "dating" officiially then bam she started acting like that? what do yall think about the situation? help appreciated about it and what i should do like tell her or whatever..thankx
WTRanger Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Easy. She's either: A) Banging someone else B) About to bang someone else There is no other reason for someone to pull away like that. If you think differently, you are kidding yourself. 100% of the time it is because they found someone else and are too spineless to tell you. They'll hide behind the "I didn't want to hurt your feelings" story. But that's all BS. Ignoring you, pulling away from you is 1,000 times worse than just being honest. Find someone new.
Author stephon3mn Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 yea it has to be "about to bang someone else" cus like i said we was see each other alot untill she moved...alot of people are sayin since she moved back home ( which is about an hour away compared to 15 mins from me) she found someone else that was closer which would be more convienent. the part about bein 1000 times worst is that to me or to her? wouldnt it be worst on her part to be honest?
boogieboy Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 You never had a chance with her, she was using you for company, and you let her. You offered too much of yourself and didnt expect anything, or try anything. Next time, go for a kiss on the third date at least. if you dont show them youre interested and make a move, you get friend zoned, and then they move on to a guy that knows how to make moves.
Author stephon3mn Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 naw i was way past all that kissing wise...i got joked by my coworkers cus they were like all me and her was doin was makin out on the dance floor...we kissed all the time from drunken makin out to her smilin kissin me on the cheek.....and one night in particular she stayed over my place we were makin out on my bed, got her thong off and im "gettin" her there, so i pull out the rubber and then she says slow ur role mister in a jokin matter.....so i know she wasnt no easy JO. any other girl thats like that dont tell a dude dat
boogieboy Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Oh, then she just found a guy she likes better than you. Nuthin you can do about it.
carhill Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Next time try getting laid *before* moving her I've been a worker monkey enough to know what one looks like....that's you.
Author stephon3mn Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 yea i thought that....you think she met him when she moved back home? im debatin on still bein friends wit her or juss sayin f that bit...i saw her last night at a club and she was all nice to me...next time should i jus be like f off?
Author stephon3mn Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 wut u mean laid before movin her?
Author stephon3mn Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 i put it on lol, was bout to dig in then she stopped me, like she wanted to be like a good girl and date me and what not, like shes thinkin "im not a whore to herself"...she was in the mood body wise, trust me i know
carhill Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 So, do you think she's being a 'good girl' right now? In retrospect, and this is hard (npi) when you've got condom's on the brain, do you think she was really interested in you and your life and times like a young lady you would want to date? Toss out your hormones and how badly you wanted her sexually. What else was really there? Always a good question to ask. I find, personally, it narrows the field of potentials substantially. Balance is what you seek. Like boogieboy said, she liked some other guy more. There will likely be a procession of 'more' before she grows up
Author stephon3mn Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 yea that makes sense thanks alot...like i asked earlier do i stay friends wit her or what, tell her to piss off>
Johnny M Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 helped her alot in cases like she lost her purse at my work ( a club) and i got people to look for it. one time she was wit her friend and got totally trashed and i came out and picked her up and took her back to my place cus she lost her keys, helped her move basically stuff like that..but after i helped her move back to her dads it started to get awkard. Three words: nice guy syndrome. She was initially interested in you, then realized you were a "nice guy" and friendzoned you. However, you don't realize that she's no longer interested in you romantically, and she can sense that, so she decided to break contract to avoid the awkwardness of having to explain it to you.
carhill Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 yea that makes sense thanks alot...like i asked earlier do i stay friends wit her or what, tell her to piss off> Neither. Silence sandwich. Polite indifference.
627 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Three words: nice guy syndrome. yep you have my disease too nice I changed that(for like the past 2 days) and I noticed some differences(I noticed it is more fun being unpredictable and sayign no to doing favors and a bit rude when your pride is at stake) women expect guys to just drule and do what they ask, and compliment them, and we as nice guys walk right into that trap she uses you as long as she needs you and then moves on you're not interesting anymore, you are predictable, easy there is no reason for her to give you anything because you already gave her the best you had(could you have been nicer or more useful?)
Author stephon3mn Posted November 2, 2009 Author Posted November 2, 2009 yep you have my disease too nice I changed that(for like the past 2 days) and I noticed some differences(I noticed it is more fun being unpredictable and sayign no to doing favors and a bit rude when your pride is at stake) women expect guys to just drule and do what they ask, and compliment them, and we as nice guys walk right into that trap she uses you as long as she needs you and then moves on you're not interesting anymore, you are predictable, easy there is no reason for her to give you anything because you already gave her the best you had(could you have been nicer or more useful?) exactly what my homeboy said..exactly....use as long as she needed me word
627 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 exactly what my homeboy said..exactly....use as long as she needed me word because it happened to me, and you don't see it coming you think that doing her this favor and that will make her grateful and will have some rewards on the long run(as in somehow she will remember) but no, my case, gratitude lasted for 50 seconds max, but she kept gettign gradualy colder(and that's a friend of mine, I really was not aiming for her, but still) I'd worry about her, always ask etc... she does not ask about me, she never does anymore and remembering way back, things were more intersting before I did her anything, so yeah that is the problem. we got lame, easy and predictable
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