JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Ok, I want to post this just to have it said. I'm very thrown off about what was texted to me by my ex when she broke up with me. Our final arguement ended with me asking her if she was in a relationship with me just to keep me as a friend. She replied that she didn't know, but that she would think about it. The next day I get a text from her saying that I forced her to make a decision, and that we are no longer a couple. That she wanted time to do it her way, and go about it how se felt was right. What the hell does that mean? From what I've been reading, it sounds like she was pissed at me because she didn't get her extended amount of time to distance herself from the relationship before she tore me apart. How is that fair really? She never really even explained why she was breaking up (because we would argue, because she only wanted me as a friend, or something else). I suspect the arguing is a part of it, as we would argue about where the realtionship was, and where it would go (apparently I was more committed to the relationship than she was, her words), and I guess I should have seen these arguements as a sign that it wasn't going to work. I just have no idea why she would be so pissed off at me. I did try to have her talk to me about why we broke up, and she treated that like the worst thing ever, and only responded through a few text then ended communication. I feel like I'm going around in circles now. One moment I miss her, one I'm angry that she would stay in a relationship she wasn't really committed to and lead me on, then I'm angry at myself for not trying harder to resolve past arguements or trying to contact her after she broke up with me. AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!! (What I feel like doing right now, but I don't want to upset the neighbors). Thanks for reading.
Author JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 Follow up thought is that I have to see her tomorrow night to give her back her stuff, and get mine. I know that I don't want to talk (though it will be tough because I have lots of questions), but the question is what to do with a certain item. I had been working on a picture book for her, and I know I can't keep it (it would make all of this harder on me). Should I throw it away, or just put it in the pile of stuff that I'm giving back to her?
Author JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 (edited) I feel that asking that would make me feel worse. I mean if she says no, then I get hung up on why she wouldn't want something else I poured myself into. I think I'm going to just slip it in the stuff I give back. I'm having a tough time throwing it away, and giving it to her like that will make sure I never see it again. Now I'm back to the whole not understanding thing. This girl is one that had only ever been given flowers once, and it was because her ex pissed her off and it was a knee jerk reaction on his behalf to apologize. When we dated, I would buy, pick, heck even once stole some fantastic flowers from someone's yard to give to her. Not only that, but I would put extra effort into all these "stupid" little gifts to make each one unique. Why the hell would she accept stuff like this from me, lead me on (I'll even give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she wasn't really leading me on, just didn't want anything serious, but then why would she even stay with me when she knew I was taking it seriously), and then just tear me apart and not even explain why? Edited November 1, 2009 by JolliX
Schat Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 You could do that. My ex gave me back my old ipod that I let him have (I had gotten a new one) and I was wondering why he bothered to do that...it's as if he didn't want anything of me. Because there were also a couple other things that he was like "no, i don't want that". I mean, really? So yeah, I would be hurt also if she says no to something you actually made and meant something. Probably best to just slip it in with her stuff and she can do what she wants with it, like you said.
Eisenhower Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I would just put it in with the stuff you give her. I sent my ex back all the love letters she wrote me when we were together. I'm not sure why - I didn't want to keep them because they only hurt to read but I didn't want to throw them away. I think I wanted her to read them to see how happy she was at one point in our relationship, because it sounds like all she remembers was the bad things. I also sent her back all the pics of her kids she'd given me. Those were definitely too painful for me to keep and I figured maybe she would want them. Anyway, I'd just give it to her - if she wants to thow it away, her call ... but it may mean something to her. Eisenhower
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