confused kiddo Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Hello, as it says above I NEED HELP!! This is a long a confusing situation. Me and my wife do not have a normal marrige to say the least!! I will give you the run down before I get to the main problem at hand. When we first got together I was the bread winner, responsible, paid my bills, funcioned in society quite well. As of a couple of years ago she adimently wanted to be the bread winner and because I wanted to spend 24/7 with our two kids to be more hands on in raising them I agreed. She does not work a normal job. She makes her own hours, her friends are the bosses so she NEVER goes into work. Here is the issue( and I assure you I am not putting her on blast to be mean and spitefull nor am I AT ALL stretching the truth!!) She I LAZY AND GOOD FOR NOTHING!!! She sits around all day everyday smoking pot, she never goes to work, she NEVER handles ANY of lifes issues, we have been evicted, our credit is god awefull, all of her income goes to weed, if not for me our children would be a wreck, we pay NO bills, were all sleeping on the couch at her bosses house, she is involved in illegial activity, and when I try to fix our problems she gets upset and yells so much and so loud it is just not worth it to ever bother. She kicks me out ALL the time and my other issue is this- I have NO FRIENDS_NOT ONE!!! She does not allow them, I have NO FAMILY whatsoever, I do not have a cell phone, I do not have a place to go, no bank account, no money, not a leg to stand on!! I am lucky to be on the computer right now. Were fighting again and I am soon to be homeless AGAIN!! Most importantly the children are not safe in her care! I know I need to get away but I do not have the means, the second I step foot out of the door I am officially homeless!! She holds EVERYTHING over my head. WHAT DO I DO??
Ariadne Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Hello, as it says above I NEED HELP!! This is a long a confusing situation. Me and my wife do not have a normal marrige to say the least!! I will give you the run down before I get to the main problem at hand. When we first got together I was the bread winner, responsible, paid my bills, funcioned in society quite well. As of a couple of years ago she adimently wanted to be the bread winner and because I wanted to spend 24/7 with our two kids to be more hands on in raising them I agreed. She does not work a normal job. She makes her own hours, her friends are the bosses so she NEVER goes into work. Here is the issue( and I assure you I am not putting her on blast to be mean and spitefull nor am I AT ALL stretching the truth!!) She I LAZY AND GOOD FOR NOTHING!!! She sits around all day everyday smoking pot, she never goes to work, she NEVER handles ANY of lifes issues, we have been evicted, our credit is god awefull, all of her income goes to weed, if not for me our children would be a wreck, we pay NO bills, were all sleeping on the couch at her bosses house, she is involved in illegial activity, and when I try to fix our problems she gets upset and yells so much and so loud it is just not worth it to ever bother. She kicks me out ALL the time and my other issue is this- I have NO FRIENDS_NOT ONE!!! She does not allow them, I have NO FAMILY whatsoever, I do not have a cell phone, I do not have a place to go, no bank account, no money, not a leg to stand on!! I am lucky to be on the computer right now. Were fighting again and I am soon to be homeless AGAIN!! Most importantly the children are not safe in her care! I know I need to get away but I do not have the means, the second I step foot out of the door I am officially homeless!! She holds EVERYTHING over my head. WHAT DO I DO?? Oh, I found someone a little worse than me. I'm unemployed but not evicted yet or living in someone's couch. Well, it's pretty crazy alright.. Sounds like none of you want to work or do anything. Most likely the boss is going to kick you out soon too. And on top of that it seems like she doesn't love you or respect you very much. Well, there's always the park, you can get a tent and camp somewhere in nature, you can sleep in the car if you have one, go to the shelter, the relatives, etc.
Auroracoladybug Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I suggest checking out shelters in your area...get with a counselor there and let them know what is going on...get out with the kids and out from under her NOW!!! or your kids and you will not thrive you will be smothered...Please contact CPS if nothing else and get the parenting classes and information you need and get the kids out of there now for their safety.
mark982 Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 confused,there are alot od options,you just haven't found out about them yet. cps is a good start,tell them your problems,and don't hold back. your wifes illegal issues are going to drag you down. you're no good to your kids while your rear end is sitting in jail. i can understand you wanting to be a stay at home dad. but how the heck did you let this go to the lenghs that it has?
FeelingLonely98 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 Oh, I found someone a little worse than me. I'm unemployed but not evicted yet or living in someone's couch. Well, it's pretty crazy alright.. Sounds like none of you want to work or do anything. Most likely the boss is going to kick you out soon too. And on top of that it seems like she doesn't love you or respect you very much. Well, there's always the park, you can get a tent and camp somewhere in nature, you can sleep in the car if you have one, go to the shelter, the relatives, etc. can't you go to Mom's, a sister or brother? a cousin? ask at your church. You gotta get out of there to take STEP 1 towards fixing your life Ari. then maybe you can fix the M. GOOD LUCK. Welcome to LS. There are good people with better words of advice and comfort than I could ever prose here in a post. Take care.
joybean72 Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 What the hell kind of bosses are those?!(Her's) Okay...I suggest putting in applications ANYWHERE! It's bad all over right now but at least it'll be something right? Your kids are your priority...do what you need to do for them. Even if that means some public assistance. You have options...they can even help find you a job.
2sure Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 I cannot figure out how, when you first noticed that she was not holding up her end as "bread winner" why you continued to allow yourself and your children to dependent on her. Clearly she can not support you and your children. Stop expecting her to.
Art_Critic Posted November 2, 2009 Posted November 2, 2009 She never goes to work and stays home all day getting stoned and you all live in her bosses living room. The boss must see and agree with what is going on.. Sounds like her boss is a big issue in her life and is giving her the crutch she needs to keep her from hitting bottom. I think you should take your kids and yourself to a shelter and leave her there to smoke her pot. Kids first...
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