Author Schat Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 blackjacker, Read my post a few up from this. He did contact me... I am tempted to contact him again...I am going to wait awhile to see if he does, or else I will.
blackjacker Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 Yes I know. I have read that. However, my point was how long are you going to wait? I personally think that if I were the guy, i would get the feeling like I'm being blown off. I have experienced that before;)
Author Schat Posted November 3, 2009 Author Posted November 3, 2009 Yes, I do worry that he would feel blown off, but I tried to make it clear by my resposnes to his texts, that I'm not ignoring him or anything. And I agreed with him about how he said he was feeling. Also, the last time I saw him I told him that he should never feel weird about coming to me, that I will always be here for him, etc. I was very nice to him. He told me before he left that he doesn't want me to think that that is the last I will see of him. And I asked if I should let him contact me first and he said I don't have to...
blackjacker Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 Ah okay. Cheer up girl. But IMHO, text messages to communicate in stuffs like that are very.. erm.. unclear. It should be said and clarified face to face to make each other's intentions firm. Tex messages shouldn't be the medium of communication when both of you are uncertain.
muse08 Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 If they truly have a change of heart and want back into your life, they won't send a text or email or give you a phone call with a bunch of meaningless words, they would instead, knock at your door and want to talk with you face to face. you have to be very careful with that. e.g., i am the dumper in my situation. still my X has been contacting me. however, he knows that i have had a protective order against another X b/c of harassment. so he's mentioned several times that he doesn't want me to think he's like my other X who was harassing me,etc. but he has come to my job with flowers when i initially broke up with him. so you can't always expect that someone will pop up at your door...that would be an ideal situation but it depends on the situation and the dynamics of the relationship.
RangersFC Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Well i've been about 8 months of NC, broke it for 3 weeks back in Sept. But none the less, its just as hard for me now as it was the first day. I love the girl I was seeing and took me a year to relize I was deeply in love with her. I wish you all the best. I'd say just continue strict NC, at the end of the day, if he wants to be with you, he will. He won't run away from arguements, he'll man up and face them! Seriously just take a few steps back and try to look at it from the outside. There are a lot of good guys that would kill to be with you! Good luck! Feel free to read my rollercoaster of a story!
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