hockeyman80 Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 How come the first thing that comes to mind is always the worst possible scenerio? I was supposed to goto a huge halloween party last night, but was suffering from a severe sore throat so I didn't end up going with my gf. I felt horrible about not being able to go, felt like I let her down, and now that she says she had an amazing night I feel 100x more horrible. Why am I so paranoid? My mind always tells me that if a girl has an amazing night at a party without you there that you're not too important, how can I change these thoughts? they really do have the power to bring you down for long periods of time. Our relationship up to this point has been wonderful, but I shouldn't have to feel like I have to go out to these parties when I'm not feeling well just to make myself feel better about the whole thing. Advice?
boogieboy Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 They dont have the power to bring you down, YOU DO. You probably didnt want to go anyway. Maybe you dont know anyone there, youre going with your gf so its not like your looking to hook up...maybe youre not really into halloween. If youre going maybe it was just for her. She enjoys the interaction with people, talking about dopey costumes, maybe you could care less. Think about something that you would enjoy immensely that she wouldnt truly enjoy, then maybe you can see it from her perspective. Since she had an amazing night, you DIDNT let her down.
carhill Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 OP, you're defining yourself through the lens of your relationship. Good on her that she had a great time. I hope your throat feels better soon. Lemon tea really helps
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