MeErnie Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 OK the test goes: Babe, its me J (My ex-fiance). I am in Melbourne and went down to Richmond where we use to go shopping brought back some crazy memories ... hope your doing well. I'm now in mix of emotions ....
HeavenOrHell Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 What caused the break up? How have you felt being apart from him? That must be really confusing to hear after a year!!
mickleb Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I presumed that message was from a girl and that you are male, from your username. Could you confirm for us, MeErnie? Regardless of your sex, I found the language used galling in it's presumption. I wouldn't DARE to refer to an ex as 'babe' after a year - like I KNEW they'd give a sh*t. Maybe that's me, but I think it's downright cheeky. Secondly, I'm not surprised you're mixed up by it. It IS an intimate message that IMPLIES they are missing you and would like to get back in touch but it IS only a text. Who knows if they were drunk, had just been dumped themselves, or whatever? Whether you choose to respond, or not, depends on how you feel about them. If I did reply, I might start it off with: please don't refer to me as 'babe', that is not my name (!) Some more details on your story will help us to decipher a little more! x
SValentine Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I think he or she (I can't really tell. Is it a guy or a girl?) is just missing the times you used to share. But it doesn't mean that they want to get back together, so be wary of that. Don't give them a flirty text back. Just sound insanely normal. Like "Yeah, i'm doing good. How are you?". If you still have feelings for them then maybe you guys could catch up and see how each others lives are going?
Author MeErnie Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 What caused the break up? How have you felt being apart from him? That must be really confusing to hear after a year!! He cheated on me and dumped me as if it was my fault. Yes it has been a year I'm pretty much over the break up. But it really confuse me.
Author MeErnie Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 I presumed that message was from a girl and that you are male, from your username. Could you confirm for us, MeErnie? Regardless of your sex, I found the language used galling in it's presumption. I wouldn't DARE to refer to an ex as 'babe' after a year - like I KNEW they'd give a sh*t. Maybe that's me, but I think it's downright cheeky. Secondly, I'm not surprised you're mixed up by it. It IS an intimate message that IMPLIES they are missing you and would like to get back in touch but it IS only a text. Who knows if they were drunk, had just been dumped themselves, or whatever? Whether you choose to respond, or not, depends on how you feel about them. If I did reply, I might start it off with: please don't refer to me as 'babe', that is not my name (!) Some more details on your story will help us to decipher a little more! x No I'm a girl sorry You are right I really don't want to read into it too much. I don't care if it was a drunken text or whatever I did warn him not to contact me again. Coz to me, he has no right to get access to my life again. To fill you in, I was in relationship with this guy for 5 years, engaged for 2 years. Soon after I quitted my job and was about to move to the city he was in, he dumped me. I have been trying so hard to get my life back. Getting in touch with him is the last thing I would ever hope for. Still, the text confuses me.
Author MeErnie Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 I think he or she (I can't really tell. Is it a guy or a girl?) is just missing the times you used to share. But it doesn't mean that they want to get back together, so be wary of that. Don't give them a flirty text back. Just sound insanely normal. Like "Yeah, i'm doing good. How are you?". If you still have feelings for them then maybe you guys could catch up and see how each others lives are going? Or should I just ignore him? I don't know. To some degrees he does mean something to me but now I'm in a stable LTR I don't want to create any drama out of it. Call me silly, I just want to let him know that I'm doing more than fine and have a greater life than I was with him.
mickleb Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 No I'm a girl sorry You are right I really don't want to read into it too much. I don't care if it was a drunken text or whatever I did warn him not to contact me again. Coz to me, he has no right to get access to my life again. To fill you in, I was in relationship with this guy for 5 years, engaged for 2 years. Soon after I quitted my job and was about to move to the city he was in, he dumped me. I have been trying so hard to get my life back. Getting in touch with him is the last thing I would ever hope for. Still, the text confuses me. What an as*hole! These people who promise the earth and then can't handle the reality of that just boil my swede! Or should I just ignore him? I don't know. To some degrees he does mean something to me but now I'm in a stable LTR I don't want to create any drama out of it. Call me silly, I just want to let him know that I'm doing more than fine and have a greater life than I was with him. SO pleased to hear you've moved on so well, Ernie! (We love to be reminded of life after 'death', here!) Hmmn. I know what you mean with this one! So TEMPTING! I think, if you are not interested with keeping in touch with him (and WHY would you do that?!) then it is even more annoying for him if you don't respond at all. He might get all worked up by that and then try to call you, in which case you could coolly answer and breezily explain your newfound happiness LIVE into his ear! Or am I just getting sadistic, now? I think I'd ignore it, though.. x
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