JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I'm curious, but when have people found it appropriate to start dating again after they are dumped? I really don't want a rebound date or one night stand, and I'm afraid that if I start dating again too early that I might accidentially hurt the other person, or feel miserable that I'm not meeting someone that I think is as amazing as my ex was. Thoughts?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 After commenting on your breakup thread, the timing should be 6 months to a year. Depending on how fast you can heal and move on. I don't think you should worry about dating so much as worrying about how you can move on from your ex. You know you're not ready to date if the wound is still so fresh.
Author JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 I know I'm not ready with just getting dumped. But I'm trying to look at things in a positive way. One way of doing that for me is to think about when I will be ready to start dating again.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I know I'm not ready with just getting dumped. But I'm trying to look at things in a positive way. One way of doing that for me is to think about when I will be ready to start dating again. It will most likely backfire. Work on yourself. Getting dumped is a huge blow to your self- esteem. And you will probably have some good and bad days in the coming weeks and month. What are you doing that you're moving on with your life and not thinking about getting back with the ex? That's the question you have to ask yourself.
Author JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 Well I'm still working on not thinking about not wanting to get back with my ex. I plan making going to the gym more regular (I go, but never on set days), going back to some recreational classes to meet new people, and I think I'm actually going to volunteer on Thanksgiving somewhere this year (I don't have anyhting else to do then, as that was a day I was going to spend with my ex).
mickleb Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Um, I don't want to sound harsh JolliX but NOT the day after you've been dumped! (Have I got that right, reading your other posts? I mean, you joined the forum today, after it happened yesterday, didn't you?) I would do a minimum of three months of the therapy you've signed up for and then ask your counsellor that question. He/she will be able to give you a much better idea than we can of 'where you're at'. Good luck. x
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