JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 How often have you said "I love you" to someone, just to hear nothing in return, or have them tell you that they don't love you or never will. I just want to know what others have experienced. I have told three girls that I have been in relationships that I loved them (and I really did/do) in each case. The first I told this to told me she loved me back (and it was great), but after two and a half years it was apparent we would not work out as a couple, so we broke it off. The second I told said she could never love me, and that I was just a recovery boyfriend to her (after months of dating, dinner with parents, etc.). The final just dumped me. She said she cared for me as more than a friend, but that she never said she loved me (and she didn't), or that she would. This was all over text messages, and she dumped me the same way. Am I alone in this being a curse of sorts?
onewillburn Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I've only had this happen to me in my last relationship. It's a pretty awful feeling, but it was after two years of constant reciprocation. She used to say it to me so much that I had to tell her to stop at one point because I wasn't used to saying it. One particular incident that I remember, about a week before she broke up with me, I was leaving her house and said "I love you" and she didn't say it back and I actually said something like "come on..." and she finally said it back hesitantly. I think that was one of the most degrading moments of my life, having to ask her to say it back. It makes me cringe as I type it out, haha. But usually I'm the one who doesn't say it back. I'm not comfortable handing the phrase out, because it means a lot of to me to actually be in love with somebody. I like to make sure of it before I say it and potentially hurt anybody later on.
Thebob Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I love you is a big ass word, and I wont say it unless that girl is potential marriage material. I love you takes all your dignity away as a man, and you might be stuck with that girl for awhile. Unless your the typical ******* who can just drop it without feeling any remorse and not caring one bit if it's true or not. Thebob
Author JolliX Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 I know it's a big word. That's why I sit and think about how I feel for a long time before saying it. I have said it to three different people like I said, but I honestly feel that it was what I felt, and I meant it.
Limbo21 Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Can I ask how old you are jollix? Just interested if you've still gots lots to come? I do hear what your saying though and it's awful when it's not reciprocated. I rarely said it, my ex (who I adored) told me she loved me within 2 weeks of meeting her (she was even still living with her husband lol) and I eventually told her the same ... Cos I did, and then told her daily Fast forward 2.5 years later after letting my guard down & bam!! I'm dumped. I stayed frosty for 15 years after my first heartbreak, early 20's. Even had a 9 year relaionship in that period but never opened my heart up. Of course i did again for the first time in nearly half my excistence and now I'm crying in my cornflakes I promise you I'll not make the same mistake again
SValentine Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Well actually... never. Because i never say it until i'm positive they're in love with me too. I usually say it after i hear it from them.
Confused728 Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 how about this, my ex and i broke up text each other for like a month, ended up seeing each other he wanted me to sleep over and cuddle up with him. but i woudlnt do it cause he still didnt wanna get back together and work things out.. he not very emotional and harldy says the L word to anyone.. so before i left his house i told him i loved him.. and walked away, it was dark in the room, then after few seconds i heard him say "I love you too" i belive it because he would never say it if he didnt mean it... but still not sure why he said it, if he doesnt even wanna work things out... why u think ??
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