Process of getting back together

[sungrl]

Do you think its usually a long(or somewhat long) process of getting back together when ex's start talking again? when one reaches out and says their regrets etc and the other says it will be like starting over, talking, then meeting etc....obviosuly its not like when you first meet someone and everything is totally new and its not the same "dating rules" but some do apply....like with ex's it might be talking on the phone for awhile before going out on that date...should this be the time to be patient? to not expect a call every few days and even be happy for now with once a week or to not expect a call back right away b/c technically you aren't together yet. Or if you are calling back and forth every few days and then you don't talk for 5, 6 days b/c you don't want to be clingy but haven't heard from them either...is this fine for now until the process of dating actually begins?

Edited November 1, 2009 by sungrl

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I don't know what's fine or not but I can definitely see people taking more time to make any moves (like calling back) because they have more doubts about how things will go than when they start dating someone for the first time.

 

I think one of the key things in getting back together is to be patient and not push things too much. It's important to analyze things in your head and decide if you want to go ahead with the process. The other party needs time to do the same.

[littlebittle]

I think one of the key things in getting back together is to be patient and not push things too much. It's important to analyze things in your head and decide if you want to go ahead with the process. The other party needs time to do the same.

 

Good response. I think it is really important to try to objectively work out your feelings before getting back into something. Also, really understand what you're getting back into. Don't force anything.