Panopticon Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I'm 22 years old, never had a girlfriend, extremely shy. If anything the shyness has become worse because of this. I'm actually a fairly decent looking guy but very skinny with zero muscle, so i just lack confidence completely. I'm starting anew here so i don't really have friends and therefore not much of a social outlet at present. I just feel like i get met with complete indifference by girls. Its come to the point where i don't even try anymore. Do some guys just give off a vibe that alienates every member of the opposite sex?
boogieboy Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Not necessarily. But you have to do the work to get what you want. Women will not help you out, they will wait there until you make a move. So if youre shy, youre going to stay lonely until you start going up to women and talking to them. The only way to gain confidence is to either do stuff that makes you proud, hobbies, sports whatever, then you have confidence of you. Or you can start talking to women, making them smile and laugh, and that will give you confidence. You also have to prevent the negative effect of getting discouraged when they reject you. You have to power through that and keep going. Youre 22 now, you will become a man when you have the knowledge that you got yourself a girlfriend by powering though tons of rejections from women, and finding a woman that is good for you. Sitting on the sidelines feeling sorry for yourself wont make this happen.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 You have to get over your shyness and just open yourself up to people, be they women or your peers. It's really easy to give to close yourself off to people if you don't try. You're 22, I think you still have time to turn yourself around. Don't worry about the rejection because like B_B said, they will only help make you stronger in the long run. Fin hobbies that allow yourself to interact with people. It's always nice to build a social network.
Pedigree Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I'm 22 years old, never had a girlfriend, extremely shy. If anything the shyness has become worse because of this. I'm actually a fairly decent looking guy but very skinny with zero muscle, so i just lack confidence completely. I'm starting anew here so i don't really have friends and therefore not much of a social outlet at present. I just feel like i get met with complete indifference by girls. Its come to the point where i don't even try anymore. Do some guys just give off a vibe that alienates every member of the opposite sex? Start working out. You'll look good and feel good. I can say that I'm more extroverted than when I was still very overweight bordering on obese. But there comes a point where it's all in your head. That's where I'm still trying to figure it out myself.
lance.dark Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 I have to agree with Pedigree. Nothing makes me feel better than lifting. I was more in your position than Pedigree's though - a little thin. Am I huge now? Certainly not, but it has made a difference. When I come out of the weight room I feel like a million bucks and that's probably more important than the muscular enhancements.
dreamergrl Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Everyone is capable of giving off a vibe that sends other people running. It's what you decide to do about it. Do you work on yourself or do you sit and throw yourself a pity party?
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