JL911 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 (edited) Ok here is the deal...I've been officailly dating the same girl now for about a month now seeing her for over 2months. I do like her a lot, but I am starting to feel weird about the situation and cant help but feel I am pulling away from her a bit and maybe starting to nit pick at her slightly...This is my 1st gf since my long term relationship ended awhile back. I have dated other girls since, but this is the 1st official relationship...and no it is not a rebound... She has been rather amazing to me. We do talk a lot about things, but for whatever reason I cannot seem to understand whats going on in her head sometimes. I care about her a lot and express my feelings for her very openly, but for whatever reason I cannot get a similar response from her. I get little things here and there. Like a little, "I like you", or an "I cant be this lucky"...She smiles a lot when we are together almost a smirk that does not go away I joke with her saying, "I cant make you this happy." I know there are some tell tale signs that I should be looking at. She was talking to a guy when I met her, but it was nothing serious, she ended all contact with him to persue me and was very open with me about that. Last week though IM she sent me a message that said "Im waiting for the other shoe to drop...You are smart, cute, sweet, funny, and fun to be around...I can't be this lucky." We dated for a few weeks and I finally decided that I had a great interest in her and wanted to see where we could go, and we became a couple....Over the past month I have literally started to go head over heals about her...It is so hard for us to leave one another once we get together...I cant stop holding her, I cant stop kissing her, and I cant stop wanting to be around her...Last night I tried to leave and she kisses me for another 15min...It is so hard to walk away and drive home!!... We spend about 3 nights together each week. She keeps finding ways to try to see me. She had a rehersal dinner one night and randomly sent me a message asking if i wanted to come watch a movie with her after she was done. I had no plans of doing anything, or trying to see her, but she asked me I went... I seem to connect on such a different level with her than girls in the past. And it feels like one of those cliches where "it feels like we have known one another longer than we have kinda things". I can talk to her about things...Shes smart and very knowledgable about so many things I find interesting. I find myself laughing and joking with her so much...She jokes with me and teases me...Her wit is about my equal it keeps me on my toes so much, and is so fun. I miss her like crazy when shes not around. I survive fine without her, but damn I like her around. I think about her so much it literally drives me insane and is rather distracting....I have never been like this with a girl before and it scares the living hell out of me....Is this what true love is? I am trying to find a way to this girls heart...I may be already there, but maybe she is too scared to tell me?..or am i slightly parinoid?... Im getting scared...Im scared I may be finding out what love is...This all started one night when she left my house rather late one night. Her phone died on the way home and I didnt hear from her for over an hour...I was so worried something had happened to her...Finally when I got the text she was ok I was like..wow...you really care about her... Being a guy sometimes I cannot read what a girl is thinking...I guess im just scared she might not be on the same level with me...What do you think... Edited October 31, 2009 by JL911
aerogurl87 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Aww that's so cute And yes I do believe you are falling in love with her. Falling in love can be both scary and fun all at once, so just take it as it comes. It's one of the best feelings you can ever experience as I've learned. But if you want to know where she's at, why don't you ask her? Most women want a man who is actively interested in the relationship since it shows you actually care. I have a feeling you two are on the same page though, so probably nothing to worry about.
Johnny M Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 I miss her like crazy when shes not around. I survive fine without her, but damn I like her around. I think about her so much it literally drives me insane and is rather distracting....I have never been like this with a girl before and it scares the living hell out of me....Is this what true love is? Nah. When you first meet someone you like, it's normal to think about her a lot. That stage usually passes rather quickly.
Author JL911 Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 Johnny, Ill be honest. I dont generally get like that with people I like at first the feelings generally kinda just grow on me over time nor have they ever been so strong. Im fairly independant and not usually so apt to think this way...Relationships have never much mattered to me and ive never really sought them out. Generally I have an I dont care much attitude about people then things tend to grow slowly on me...This is just much different than those in the past... This is the 1st time this has happened where I feel more attached to someone on a whole different level. It's like I found out more about this girl as a person prior to getting involved. Generally the physical attraction comes first, and while do I find her quite beautiful and incredibly sexy I have learned to not to trust a pretty face, her beauty is almost secondary to her personality... I'd like to hear the ladies opinion on this one...
boundaryproblem Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Female poster here- Some people are just meant to be together, and fighting it is a waste of time. Speaking of time. To fight it - is to rob you of time together. I think we are genuinely compatible with very few people in this world. But people have their pride and they are worried about being hurt. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and have faith in the other person and the connection you have together. It comes down to having faith I think.
boogieboy Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Speaking of faith...JL is seems like you dont have faith that she feels the same way you do...so since its only been two months, I say hold on to professing any love for her for a while longer until she professes it first. You might have to wait a few more months. Just relax, enjoy each others company. She knows you enjoy her company, just show her with actions how you feel about her until you really feel that she is on your level. You dont want to be guessing, you dont want to turn her off.
Soul Bear Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 Just make sure you guys keep communicating. The more communication you caqn have that is boundrieless, honest and open, the easier it will be for you both to share your feelings
Author JL911 Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 Thanks for the responses...We have been communicating rather well I believe....I guess I am a little hesitant to say how Im feeling to her partially because I cannot fully explain it all yet to myself. Im afraid it might come off too serious and possibly scare her... Sad news...Today my Grandfather passed away rather unexpected...I had to cancel plans with her tonight...Her response was, "let me know if there is anything I can do"
aerogurl87 Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Thanks for the responses...We have been communicating rather well I believe....I guess I am a little hesitant to say how Im feeling to her partially because I cannot fully explain it all yet to myself. Im afraid it might come off too serious and possibly scare her... Sad news...Today my Grandfather passed away rather unexpected...I had to cancel plans with her tonight...Her response was, "let me know if there is anything I can do" Aww sorry to hear that, hope you'll be ok. *hugs*
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