Confused728 Posted October 31, 2009 Posted October 31, 2009 why does my ex act like im the one that broke up with him? at first it was mutual then i decided i wanted to work things out and he didnt. But he is offended that i took him off my facebook, that we made plans to go out then i canceled cause i didnt want to see him, that i didnt go to his birthday party(wich he didnt invite me),he gets jelous if i talk about other guys, and doesnt wanna go to bars with me cause he doesnt wanna see guys hitting on me and me being flirty wiht them, then when i was flirty with him abotu sex, he said "I guess you dont need me for that anymore either", when i told him i might be seeing another guy, and he gets offended when i say i dont wanna be freinds and we are not gonna talk.. he makes me feel like im the one that doesnt want to work things out... Whats going on?
Author Confused728 Posted October 31, 2009 Author Posted October 31, 2009 i know when i was the dumper previously i didnt want anything to do with my exs, even to this day i dont talk to them, and blocked them on face book and that was five years ago!
Limbo21 Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 He sounds young and immature. If I was you I'd head straight for the nc door and don't come out till your over him. That'll either show him your strong and you don't NEED him and he'll start sniffing around or you heal, bounce back & find someone that ticks all your boxes good luck & keep that self respect no matter how painful the nc becomes
Author Confused728 Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 lol funny thing is he is 35 and i was the first serious relationship he had and im 28.. i have been sticking to nc today is four weeks... i just hope he is feeling some pain about all this, he didnt want me to go nc and didnt like when i told him were not goign to be freinds... just dont understand why he is so offended when he the one that doesnt wanna work it out with me, i tired to work things out 3 times, thats it, no more, thats when i started nc... so i dont know why he acting like this
Limbo21 Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 Immaturity comes in many levels. I'm 40, mature in many ways but immature emotionally and that's what he is. You say this is his 1st serious relationship. Then he doesn't have the experiance needed yet for a mature relationship. Age is irrelevent, experiance is the key here and he's lacking in that area doesn't make him a bad person, it just means he's gonna screw your head up till he learns from his mistakes and I for one wouldn't like to be his 'practice' when the stakes are so high
ADF Posted November 1, 2009 Posted November 1, 2009 why does my ex act like im the one that broke up with him? at first it was mutual then i decided i wanted to work things out and he didnt. But he is offended that i took him off my facebook, that we made plans to go out then i canceled cause i didnt want to see him, that i didnt go to his birthday party(wich he didnt invite me),he gets jelous if i talk about other guys, and doesnt wanna go to bars with me cause he doesnt wanna see guys hitting on me and me being flirty wiht them, then when i was flirty with him abotu sex, he said "I guess you dont need me for that anymore either", when i told him i might be seeing another guy, and he gets offended when i say i dont wanna be freinds and we are not gonna talk.. he makes me feel like im the one that doesnt want to work things out... Whats going on? What's going on is that your boyfriend is hurt and conflicted. That is the way most people feel after a break up, regardless of who initiated it. He's probably frustrated by the fact you seem so unconflicted. You've moved on so fast, blotted him out of your life so easily, it seems you must never have cared much about him at all. Stop trying to be friends. Stay away from each other for at least 6 months--a year would be better. That means no seeing each other, no phone calls, no email, no texting. After that time, if you both still want to, you can try to be friends.
Author Confused728 Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 i refuse to ever be his freind even if i wanted that i woudlnt do it, just fo sheer fact that he is putting me threw all this he doesnt deserve my freindship, if he doesnt wanna be with me why should i be his freind, i miss him terribly i just dont see why he is being so stuborn and not wanting to try to work things out...if he doesnt wanna be with me and is letting me go why so sensative to all this..why doesnt he just come back and work things out with me... again i think he wants his cake and eat it to, go out do what he wants and still have me around
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